So I have a 8 month old and my SS10 keeps taking the babies toys. Has that happened to anyone else? He says he wants to be the baby and lays on the babies play mats when I put the baby to play and pretends to cry, now he wants to take baths again and wants bath toys which he hasn't done since he was 5. I get there might be some jealousy but his father gives him undivided attention when he's here to the point where I don't even exist. Is it wrong to want him not to play with the babies toys?

Just a quick background. My fiancé and I have been together since shortly after his divorce. He has a son with his ex wife, who is 5 and I have a daughter who is 12. We recently moved in together. We have SS5 every other weekend plus Wednesday night. There is a lot more to vent in all this but the one that is driving me up a wall right now is SS5's inability to potty train. For 3 years, I've watched him pee and poop himself constantly. He knows he's doing it cause he will back up and squat in a corner of his room to do it.

So..as I was walking through what SS will need to do tomorrow, we happened to touch on a few more other things, including his long shower without soap (see other post for this. What bothers me was the water waste, but per SS15 he thinks not knowing how to shower correctly is something embarrassing and would rather us not to talk to his therapist about it).

Out of all of the topic, SS made a snarky and creepy comment:

SS: So...I have a question for you

Me: Okay?

SS: So...what was the thumping noise in your room the other day?

SS15 recently started the new "I can't hear you" game with me.

It doesn't matter I was talking in a quiet environment, he "just can't hear me". He was always able to hear me right away if I was to take away shit with the same volume though, how intriguing. Basically he "can't" hear me when I talk nicely to him, and in his mind I am the bad guy when I raise my volume losing my patience when I have to tell him the same thing 3 times. 

This weekend we went out of town to celebrate ss15's bday. Its been a while that we did anything for either kid's birthday and ss has been wanting to go to an amusement park. DH wanted to surprise ss so we booked a trip to a bigger park that's farther from home, and we were staying in a hotel for two nights for this trip.

As mentioned before, we are moving.

SS has the history of just throws some random things in a box (trash included) then seal it and consider it done. We told him not to seal a box that's not full (also don't use the largest box for all the books, common sense you'd think). But of course he doesn't give a f.

As we are moving, the kids were tasked to help with moving things to the new place.

After a long time of fighting with SS (DH fighting with SS, i was not part of it. It was a fight  because SS likes to pretend he has no strength to move anything despite already being taller than me), we took the kids to have some ice cream.

As we all were eating the treat, SS14 stb 15 said:

"It was really nice that she (cold stone worker) made me the ice cream"

....I am just. 

SS stb 15 has shorter school days these week because of finals. He was immediately asking DH to pick him up after school. We asked why he cannot take the bus back home (he takes the bus to school), he told us because the bus won't come until an hour later. Truth is, that specific bus won't come until another hour, but other buses will come and can also get him home.

2022 has been very busy and stressful, to add on top of the stress we have to move because our landlord plans to move back. We were able to find a home very quickly and start to plan things around, and DH told SS stb 15 today that we will be moving soon. 

SS stb 15 lies about everything. 

The latest event was lying about his presentation attire had to be black. It's really stupid because had he really just stated that it was his preference it would still have been done for him. We asked so many times whether his suit had to be black and he insisted "the teacher said it has to be." We told him if it is him who likes it to be black we will get it too. But no, it is the teacher.