I'm a childless stepmom to SD 14 and SS 10. SS 10 is a great kid, I'm SO thankful for him, he is loving and shares his life with me as does DH. It took some time to get there, but the 3 of us have a great relationship. SD 14 is the issue. A short background on her and BM: BM had addiction issues before SD was born (pills then alcohol after doctors would not giver her more pills), BM never really treated SD like a real child, almost treated SD like she was a doll when she was sober and would pay attention.