I'm sure the dr. wants to get paid and would have no problem sending the bills to DH. They want to get paid.

I have the opposite problem. BM has ALL bills sent to DH and then it's like pulling teeth to get her to pay her portion.

"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass...It's about learning to dance in the rain."

They should either change the name of the responsible party to BM or send the bills straight to DH. He cannot pay bills he does not receive, after all.

Another thing you can do to solve this problem once and for all is to file a formal and permanent change-of-address form with the post office so that all mail addressed to him (and only him) gets forwarded to your address. It's good for a year, so he would have to renew it each year if he still keeps getting mail at BM's address. Most businesses request change-of-address info from the post office, so they will see that the address has changed and should start sending to the correct address. We did this and were FLOORED at the amount of accounts BM had out in DH's name/her address after they divorced.

I personally would advise everyone to do it, even if you suspect nothing. Filing a change-of-address form with the post office so that any mail in your name is no longer sent to you ex's address can be a real eye-opener.

You can do this online at www.usps.gov for a buck or free at the post office.

♥ Georgia ♥

"Good men don't just happen. They have to be created by us women." (from ROSEANNE)

getting collection notices cause DH didn't take the phone out of his name when he left BM....it wasn't removed till she moved. and that was 6 YEARS ago!!!!

Nothing comes easy thats worth fighting for.....thats what they tell me!

EVERY MD I have ever taken my daughter to required ME to sign permission to provide treatment and agreeing that I was responsible for any unpaid balances. They absolutely refused to get involved in who pays for what/ court ordered percentages. BM constantly told all of the skids MD's to bill us. I put a stop to it by calling all of them and sending a certified letter saying that since we had not signed accepting responsibility we would not pay. That way she had to pay and present us with the bill to collect our percentage.

After we sent the BB the insurance info three times THIS YEAR ALONE - mind you it is the same insurance as last year - she called wanting our address to send the bills to = hell no! I want to see the bills to know they are for the girls not her. We paid ALL medical last year as we had an HRA and she used it up ASAP and then ran up a bunch of bills at the doctor that we didn't know about.
I say that within 10 days of HER receipt of the bill - she should send it to us, if not she would hold them all until Christmas. As such we will pay within 10 days.
My DH's ex still has his last name and her fist initial as her email, even after she remarried.

I agree with debiamia. I recall agreeing to be the responsible party when you register as a patient or your child as a patient. I tried to have BF name put on the bills since he was to pay all uncovered stuff and was told since he did not live with us the billing could not be changed. Since the bill is in my name, I have to pay the whole things and then get paid back from my ex. Since BM has custody the bills should go to her. I have to submit copies of the bills/reciepts for medical care to my ex with a note stating his portion. If he does not respond, I have to have child support try to collect and after that a judge signs an order adding that amount to his child support.

I would call the places you know she goes to and let them know you are responsible and to stop sending you the bills. Period!

Modify the court order to state that she has XX amount of time to turn the bills over to you for payment and if she does not, she is responsible for paying them.