Yeh it’s been coming a while but I think yesterday just kind of took the cake 

I don’t really help out with the steps - they are not interested in talking to me or being involved with me so that’s the end of that. Not going to break my backside for them. Partner keeps trying to force family activities on us to create some sort of bond- hasn’t happened so far. 

His parents just went back to their home after a three month visit. His work were short on Friday due to a funeral and he needed to go in but this is a day he normally has kids- he tried everyone and then when they couldn’t do it short notice he asked me. I said sure as a one off favour 

so yesterday morning I get the kids up and on the way to school sd tells me her bag is in her fathers car. I find her a plastic bag for her lunch pencil rubber paper and write her a note. Not even a thank you 

then the car ride is total silence and when we get to the school corner both hop out - not a goodbye not a thank you. Now in my day if you get a lift from someone you say thanks for the lift and bye ! 

Anyway I went to work and when I got in dang partner and said kids dropped in. He asked how it went and I said that the old problem of them not talking to me is still there and told him what happened

apparently this is my fault as I haven’t organised any group trips when his parents were here and I haven’t gone to talk to the children’s friends parents on our road and I haven’t gone to speak with the other step parents who surround us and I keep trying to step back from them and that doesn’t work Also it is my fault because I don’t like their nana and they know that and are loyal to her

once again I tried to explain 

I have to step back because my heart hurts when I have to continuously deal with this behaviour 

I don’t plan trips and nice things for those who don’t talk to me 

i don’t think me being besties with the parents of their friends on the road will help

it descended of course into a row which resulted in him threatening to break up with me- I called him on it and he back peddled. 

Unfortunately for him what’s said issaid and what’s done is done. 

So now I am forming an exit plan. It’s gonna take a few months to do but advice on making it as streamline and fast as possible appreciated