I have come to the conclusion that there is no healthy way for me to "emotionally attach" myself to my skids. SO...per the recommendations of other folks on here...I'm taking the mantra of "not my kid, not my problem" and that's the best I can do. I will be friendly. But if my SO thinks she's raising successful kids...only time will tell. I'm pulling my heart out of it and focusing on my own baby daughter. I'm going to do great things for her.