So I ponder this from time to time but wanted to open it up for discussion.

1. Does a child do poorly in school because the parents aren't doing their job?
or
2. Does a child do poorly in school regardless of parenting style/efforts?

I mean, I was not the best student in the world but I was also not the worst. I feel my parents OVER parented me while I was in school. But yet I see these kids who have no parental guidance and it's like a crap shoot...they either come out shinning stars or they come out "lil hommies".

So SD10 is no longer wanting to live with her father anymore. She claims she is verbally abused and gets slapped around by her Dad and she's very upset when it's his week to have the kids. Does anyone know if 10 is old enough to talk to a court appointed rep to take her statement for the judge to consider? I'm only asking because I don't want to put her thru the process if it's possible the judge wont allow her to live with us full time.

Pay no regard to the fact that her kids lie about everything under the fucking sun...brushing teeth, doing homework, and showering to name a few. But take their word over mine when you know they are chronic liars and that just sucks. Nevermind that i am your newest baby daddy and a fucking adult that has never given you a reason not to trust me. Fuck all that. Im just the guy watching all your lives spiral into fucking oblivion and getting blamed for it.

So I think my S-O FINALLY gets it. I am so frustrated with her and her ex's habits of ignoring their oldests grades. SS15 has 5 D's and 1 B+. And now after all this time they are finally seeing that there is a problem. This is his 2nd year in high school and he is already on track NOT to graduate on time because there isn't enough summer school left for him to make up his F's.