BioHo, Martyr of the Groom
SS21 is getting married next week. I love that young man, but am NOT looking forward to this for several reasons:
- It's a long-arse drive and we're doing it in one day - down and back (oh, my aching back/butt)
- Frigid-temp-loving Finn in sultry southern temps
- Having to be around 'Ho for one second because she's playing the VICTIM and may cause problems
Late Fall, BioHo found out that SS21 was officially engaged via Fakebook. Seems his bride-to-be posted "We're getting married!" with a pic of the happy couple. Cue the Wrath of 'Ho!
Why? Because SS21 didn't call Mommie Dearest and tell her beforehand! 'Ho is a narc and her children are extensions of her. And since she obsessively tracks her children's (and their partner's) FB pages, she called him within 5 minutes of the post to scream at him. Yes, SCREAM. How DARE the future Mrs SS21 post that without SS21 telling her first!!! To which SS21 replied that she needed to get over herself as he planned to call her later that day. Later that day? Not immediately? Cue more screaming.
Needless to say, 'Ho's and SS21's relationship is on shaky ground. 'Ho insists that SS21 owes her an apology (delusional much?). All because he a) didn't tell her before it was posted, b) for being rude. Yep, rude. Frankly, I'd've hung up on anyone screaming at me and thinks she's lucky SS21 did not respond to her screaming with a hangup or screaming back at her.
On the flip side, SS21 says that 'Ho owes HIM an apology (DH and I agree). While he's only spoken to her twice in the last several months, he's continued to do his thing: sent her Christmas, Monster's Day, and birthday cards; texted/emailed her wedding info.
Now to the wedding. The entire 'Ho House will be spending all that week on vacation down south, but wedding participation will be severely limited.
- The future Mr & Mrs are NOT invited to the 'Ho vacation bungalow for family pictures 'Ho has set up.
- Weirdly enough, 'Ho asked DH if WE wanted to be there and be in pics. Um, NO, we are NOT family. And it's a freaking 7am photo session - complete with COCKTAILS. Anyone surprised?
- 'Ho refuses to attend the rehearsal dinner. She will not let SS18, who is in the wedding, borrow her car to drive to the rehearsal or give him a ride. DH and I will pick him up (which takes us 1.5 hours out of our way as they're staying about 45 minutes away from where we are)
- And it will be sure to cue MEGA fireworks when she finds out that SS18 is coming back to OUR rental house after the rehearsal dinner AND after the wedding. We're taking him back early Saturday.
- 'Ho is furious that she is not invited to get mani/pedis with the ladies of the wedding party. Um, hello! You're not a maid of honor/bridesmaid/flower girl/miniature bride! The bride's mother is also not invited.
- 'Ho will NOT sit in the front pew at the church (Evil Aniki is thankful). She plans to sit in the very last pew. (Wonder how they're going to work that Rose to the Mothers bit...)
- The 'Ho house will not attend the reception UNLESS 'Ho's mother wants something for dinner (what - she plan to make an old lady go hungry???). In that case, they will sit as far away from the bridal party as possible, eat, and leave - probably while her mother is still chewing the last bite of food.
- And even though the 'Ho house will be down there for an entire week, there are zero plans to spend a single minute with Mr & Mrs SS21 - not before/not after the wedding. Even though SS21 ships out overseas a week later FOR A YEAR.
I imagine that 'Ho believes playing the martyr will embarrass SS21 when people ask what's going on with his mother and that will bring about the apology she's delusional enough to think she deserves.
In the meantime, SS21 has been talking to DH about aaaaaaaaall of the places he and his stb-wife want to take/show us the Saturday and Sunday after the wedding. We're very much looking forward to that!
I'm still working on my dress. The lace overlay is so delicate, it has to be handsewn. DH has shown a surprising amount of interest and enthusiam over it and has told me several times I will be the most beautiful woman there. I love that man.
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$5 says 'Ho speaks up during
$5 says 'Ho speaks up during the ceremony to share her discontent. $10 says she gets there and acts like she is the best damn mother on the planet and sticks around the whole reception.
She truly has no idea that she alienates her own kids, does she?
I'll take both the $5 and $10
I'll take both the $5 and $10 and raise it to $25!
Here's a kicker: SS18 and Spawn13 are both in the wedding. BUT are expected to bow to 'Ho's whims in regards to the reception. IOW, if 'Ho doesn't attend the reception, she expects them not to do so either. Or leave as soon as 'Ho's mother finishes eating. "Hey, SS21, where's your groomsman and junior bridesmaid?" "My mom is a twunt and driving them, so they had to leave with her."
'Ho called DH to get a check for SD25's wedding (yes, 2 weddings this year - gaaaaaaah!) and was bragging how she's sitting in back at SS's wedding, but will be front and center at SD's. This behavior is something to be proud of??
No, she's that freaking stupid. She's the mother, so all must bow to her wishes!
We took SD25 and her fiance out for dinner a couple of months ago. At that time, SD was overwhelmed with all that needed to be done (flowers, catering, invitations, etc) and I offered to help. But only small things as there was no way I was going to fall into "the Barren B!tch is trying to take my place" trap. Seems SD mentioned to 'Ho that I'd offered to help. Guess what? 'Ho is doing everything. And I do mean EVERYTHING. SD was beeyotching to DH that it has becomes 'Ho's wedding, but SD does not know how to rein 'Ho in. I kinda feel sorry for SD...
I just wish we could get a
I just wish we could get a live feed to the event for our own viewing pleasure. I'm going with Ho will get there and demand she be catered too and fawned over because she is the MOTHER of the groom.
How much would you bet she
How much would you bet she shows up in a white dress? Or will it be black for mourning?
LMAO!!!
LMAO!!!
I can't help but wonder if she'll wear flip flops...
Advice, whatya wanna bet that
Advice, whatya wanna bet that 'Ho would show up at the nail salon to crash the ladies-of-the-wedding-party's mani/pedi time if she could find out where it it?
Oh I think that goes without
Oh I think that goes without saying, she will show up ready for her manicure/pedicure and will throw a fit when they don't have a spot for her...I'm sure SS Bride being a good person will try to include her and will probably even have to end up paying for the Ho!
I wonder if anyone will film
I wonder if anyone will film 'Ho if she does that? And that they post it on YouTube....
My understanding is that it's a small salon and the bridal party will have every chair filled. Dammit, now I almost want to skulk around the parking lot and see if 'Ho shoews! LOL
There HAS to be a zoom link
There HAS to be a zoom link to this wedding!!
BUTT the camera adds 10
BUTT the camera adds 10 pounds. We would need a wide screen and be waaaaay up high.
Ho's hungry mother
LOLOLOL - 'we'll only show up if mommy is hungry and wants free food' - like there is any chance they won't show up, eat the food, and stir the pot?
Free food, indeed,
Free food, indeed, caninelover! Since CS ended 3 years ago, 'Ho has been suffering. No bi-weekly mani/pedis, no dyed hair and regular root touch-ups... And her poor wardrobe! Oh, how she suffers. She wore the same shirt to 3 graduations, 3 years in a row. Maybe she'll dress up that shirt for the wedding? *diablo*
Ho. Will start drinking at 6 AM
It's a big day. She may sleep through the wedding? As long as the Booz flows the reception will be find.
I would get a special waitperson to keep HO glass always filled
It's a dry reception: NO
It's a dry reception: NO booze. And a drunk 'Ho is a bloody nightmare.
https://www.steptalk.org/blog/aniki/how-ruin-college-graduation-party-25...
For once, I actually believe 'Ho when she says that they will only stay at the reception long enough to eat. After all, The Martyr of the Groom must make it all about herself.
Wow - she's proving why SS
Wow - she's proving why SS and his bride are not including her isn't she!
I'll tell you, at my first wedding, my parents were pretty darn terrible, just acting out about everything and being wierdly rude. Think of parents opening a bottle of champs over in the back corner before my then husband I even had toasted....everyone noticed THEM and none of their actions reflected on us.
Ho will just make it clear to everyone the truth. Poor wedding couple.
I am sure you will have some great stories! I certainly do!
Wow, Cover, that's awful! And
Wow, Cover, that's awful! And now it wouldn't surprise me if 'Ho is chugging Arbor Mist in the back of the church. *shok*
That's mild, I've got lots of
That's mild, I've got lots of stories from that first wedding. Which is a major reason I insisted to DH that we do an easy destination package wedding so we wouldn't have to deal with too much.
Believe me, I wish SS21 and
Believe me, I wish SS21 and bride were eloping. SD25, too. I imagine SD25's will be insane and 'Ho will be front and center.
Enjoy the day with SS
Ho can go HOme.
We plan to, CLove!
We plan to, CLove!
Honestly, what kind of mother acts like this? Especially when she knows her son will be gone for a year or more???
A Super toxic one
Who thinks she is Golden.
Very sad for the kiddos.
Very much so.
Very much so.
Aniki
Your DH is a good one. He makes you feel special and loved. You did well.
Your DH did even better. You sound refined darling! and HO well is a HO.
Hope she behaves, but if she doesnt smile with the look of amusement.
I think he is wonderful,
I think he is wonderful, Stepdrama2020!
Don't know that I'm refined, but you can dress me up and take me places without embarassment. *kiss2*
Not sure that 'Ho has it in her to 'behave'. We shall see. I plan to do my best to ingno' the 'Ho.
Question
If Ho is sitting in the back, who will occupy the mother of the groom place in the pew? I nominate Aniki! Can you imagine what Ho would do if she saw an usher walking you down the aisle in the mother of the groom role? Somebody has to do it.
I cannot wait to hear how this wedding goes. I laughed so hard about the graduation party, I had tears coming out of my eyes. Lol!
Gadzooks, woman, my monitor
Gadzooks, woman, my monitor is covered with lemon Klarbrunn!
I can already hear the screeching from the back of the church... "What the f*ck is that Barren B!tch doing sitting in MY f*cking spot?!" Key the smack-flopping of her flip-flops as she hustles her arse front and center...
She just can’t take not being
The center of attention. SS21 should assign someone to keep her in check because she's the type to try and wreak the ceremony. She knows by sitting in the back that she's trying to pull attention to her. I bet $20 the whole 'ho clan shows up with flasks and make frequent trips to whatever vehicle got them to the venue.
Aniki - pls post a pic of your dress when done. On u or on a hanger--would love to see it.
Crspyew, if only! No idea if
Crspyew, if only! No idea if SS21 has a 'Ho Wrangler ready to go (complete with lasso and a gag!), but one is probably needed. DH and I believe 'Ho will arrive at the church well into her cups. And IF she shows up at the reception, she's ballsy enough to bring in a bottle in a shoulder bag. Flask be damned!
I'll think about it. It will be a unique dress and the wedding is bigger than we thought. Hate to be "found" on here. *kiss2*
Aniki, we both have train
Aniki, we both have train wrecks coming over the weekend then lol- I'll be with you in spirit. I had no idea about the graduation fiasco, OMG that's absolutely awful. What a wretched woman.
Bananaseedo, do you think I
Bananaseedo, do you think I can lose 40 pounds in the next 10 days? LOL
I'll be with you in spirit, too, darlin'. SD and her in-laws probably have PTSD from that nightmare. SD still talks about 'Ho jumping up and down on her laptop. Wretched doesn't even begin to describe 'Ho.
That's right, I remember the
That's right, I remember the laptop episode! So why would she yell at you for being in her spot when she decided herself to sit in the back. I sure hope they find a wrangler.
Yeah, you and me both could lose 40lbs...I'd love to before the event. Honestly, with the anxiety I'm feeling and having severe depression these days I may skip it together if I feel it will worsen my situation. I'll talk to DH and ask how he feels if he just went with his mom and brother.
BM is heavier then I am but she has dropped a lot of weight, and is in a very happy relationship (engaged now) so seems 'glowing' kwim? Good for her and for SD but I feel like I'm in hell and don't want to be around happy people lol
My anxiety is horrible right
My anxiety is horrible right now. I'm sure it will be better June 28th!
BioHo blames her fat on SS21, which is horsepuckey. She managed to drop some weight during the 2 year parade of bed buddies (22 in 2 years). Wouldn't be a surprise if her drinking and penchant for greasy fast food and junk food are the culprits.
'Ho is not a happy person and her marriage is a joke. Too bad she doesn't work on herself instead of trying to manipulate her children.
I can't believe that BioHo is
I can't believe that BioHo is planning to behave in the ways you describe at her own son's wedding - who does that? She really is loose in the rafters - who spoils their own son's wedding because she wants to throw a hissy fit? Having said that, I hope she does what she says and doesn't attend the reception - it will certainly be more enjoyable without her. I bet you will look fabulous on the day!
Kes, IMO, it would be better
Kes, IMO, it would be better if she avoided the entire event since she cannot simply be happy for her son.
My plan it to NOT look like a frazzled, melty trainwreck!
Ho sounds worse then my dad
I invited 5 friends to YSS funeral to act as social buffers. 3 brought their partners plus my youngest sister came too so we had 9 people to keep the peace. Mostly by entertaining my dad. He is mostly ok as long as he is the centre of attention and not bored.
'Ho is on a whole different level of crazy.
Sad we can't see the dress but completely get it. In my imagination you are wearing these kitten heels: Alabaster Pink Brushed leather slingback pumps | Prada
The majority of the guests
The majority of the guests will be stb Mrs SS21's family and friends. (SS21 said they will seat the church evenly for "balance".) The bride and family are quiet and very religious. 'Ho will be a shocker and I don't know if they feel they can ask anyone to "buffer" her.
These are my shoes:
https://luckyshoes.com/products/womens-vionic-minnie-kitten-heel-nude?va...
Very pretty
Lovely shoes. I do love a nice kitten heel.
You might be suprised at what religious folks can image manage if they have the right information.
I certainly will not be the
I certainly will not be the one to tell them and neither will my DH. Perhaps SS21 has given them a heads up. His stb-wife may have, too.
Oh no!
I didn't mean that you should try to manage her. It is up to SS and Mrs to be SS to organise as they see fit or not.
Oh, I knew that! I meant that
Oh, I knew that! I meant that I will not be the one to say 'Ho needs managing.
I went to a wedding where the
I went to a wedding where the Mom of the Groom and her family stomped out all mad as soon as they'd eaten. Why? because he was doing his dance w/ his mom but was also doing one later w/ his stepmom. He had the DJ just announce the one w/ his stepmom and no one even noticed his BM was gone.
Does that MOG have a sister?
Does that MOG have a sister? I'm imagining 'Ho making a dramatic exit...
Why yes she does, the whole
Why yes she does, the whole MOG family stomped out together but not until they'd gorged themselves. What's funnier (to me) is that in the wedding photos, some posted on-line after the honeymoon, there's one empty table in the photos. Pretty symbolic I think.
For some reason, I
For some reason, I immediately thought of The Missing Link. Maybe 'Ho will go missing on the trip down. Forever... Bad Aniki!