Man dumps 80,000 penies for CS on front lawn.
Did you guys read this story? I apologize if it's been posted before. https://abc7ny.com/man-dumps-80000-pennies-in-yard-to-dollars-child-supp...
I simply can't wrap my head around it, even with toxic bm's-the payment is for his kid, he did it to get back at his KID. No excuses for that move.
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Yea... I saw it. What an un
Yea... I saw it. What an un-original dick move. Of course now that it is national news and more people think it was a dick move, he is back peddling and "sorry".
I haven't seen the articles
I haven't seen the articles yet of him back peddling. I think what they did by donating it tells me they aren't the typical ahole bm/skids dealt with here. It tells me they were raised right and he was just a douche. Even better that their story inspired so many to donate to the women's shelter, that's awesome!
Ha! Since it didn't go
Ha! Since it didn't go through the state, and unless he got a receipt, he still owes that last CS payment. His 80,000 pennies were a gift.
total dick move and a way to
total dick move and a way to literally make the kid grovel for money.
so disgusting!
I read somewhere that his
I read somewhere that his daughter refused to speak to him for years.
I can see my husband being petty like that at this point. With the way BM has been, with the way SS has been. Screw them both, they only see DH as a paycheck. I feel like that dad was just over it- here is your $ you entitled b**ches.
There are two sides to every
There are two sides to every story, the father in this admitted that it was years of frustration and resentment that had built up and led him to do this...I mean how often on here have people talked about the last CS payment and things they would like to be able to say or do along with that final payment?
Jerk move, sure. What we don
Jerk move, sure. What we don't know is how many years of stress this man must have been put thru to get that point. We are all too familiar with the toll ridiculous CS amounts take on our DH's and our households. Especially when in SOME (not all) cases the money is being used to subsidize the BMs designer bags and vacation fund. We are done with CS in 8 weeks. I have dreamed of this moment for 21 years. That extra $10,500 a year is going to help us pay down some debt. Maybe allow US to take a nice vacation at some point. I personally wish I could post DH's final tally of CS online. So the SKIDS can see how much money their mother pissed away and never saved a dime for them. I likley won't do it though, but I sure wish I could!
I really tuned into the
I really tuned into the "estranged father" piece of the article. How many times have fathers been estranged from their children, pay their child support, and when it comes to the last payment go a little nuts-oh. It may have been a bad judgement on his part, but we also don't have the whole story.
I am glad that their local
I am glad that their local shelter got the donation and that the publicity led to even more donations for them...
...BUT....I do wonder who alerted the media to this event? And I also do have to wonder at the motives of the BM and their daughter at choosing the women's shelter as the recipient of their donation...perhaps they regularly suuport the shelter...perhaps one or both of them has recieved support from the shelter ..perhaps this guy was abusive...or perhaps they just wanted to paint a picture that he was abusive by implication when they choose (and publicized) the shelter as the recipient of this money...OR..maybe I'm just cynical. The story would not read quite the same had they given the money to a donkey sanctury.
This is just me, typically
This is just me, typically supporters of those shelters/programs have been in touch with them at some point in their life. People who cry wolf or fake abuse, normally do not bother at all with them. Personally, the fact they chose that route makes me think one of them (possibly mom) has worked with them before, or had to use their services at one point. I can tell you this much, from his absolutely ridiculous display of immaturity, bitterness and pettiness and outright AGRESSION towards his own daughters and ex-his intent was to humiliate and hurt, it strikes me as he likely had abusive tendencies, maybe the divorce because of it- call it my gut, but the way the story reads I'd bet money on the fact that he was one of those nasty abusive men and HE distanced himself from his kids. ABusive men love to blame the women for alienation, when they themselves do it. What he did was the epitome of selfish behavior. NO matter how upset he is with his ex, that was an action that hurt his children. I'm going to be following it more just out of curiosity-but again, I'd bet money on the fact he was an abusive ex, alienated himself from his kids.
I know, I dealt with one like that, my spidey senses are screaming, the behavior is spot on for a narc/abusive man.
This is the feeling I got as
This is the feeling I got as well.
This will probably be my ex in 14 years. He alienated himself - has not seen our son in years. But I am sure it is "my fault" because I wouldn't let him stay overnight at my house all weekend, getting DRUNK, trying to talk me into resuming the relationship and when I would decline freak out. Think acting like he was going to leave at 3am screaming out the door - down to his vehicle - back up and into my house. Loud crazy drunk causing a major commotion in my small uper middle class neighborhood. Even yelling he doesn't GAF what neighbors think and I'm stupid for having neighbors. Lunging at me, screaming, grabbing. Ugh.
You know "I won't let him see our son" and I am alienating him from his son. Nevermind he hasn't sought any visitation.