Our BM never ceases to amaze me.  Remember, she lost custody of SD around age 14 because of her meth addiction.  Granted after some years, she DID get clean and was even employed again (hospital no less).  She has of course continued her back/forth w/her methy abusive husband, who rotates between rehab, hospitals, jail and back to her.  She continues to torment SD with her bi-polar crazy rants over the phone and guilt trips, etc.

Last night SD called us frantic.  Keep in mind she is 18-just started a new job, has no car but lives w/her boyfriend and his family.  BM called HER of all people to come bail her out!!  Said she had absolutely nobody else that could help.  

DH told her that it wasn't her problem, and BM should have never called her.  We know she has friends and her husbands family she's still close to, let her call them.  He said she'll guilt trip you anyways no matter what, so just don't do it. It's not your responsibility. Don't put your name on any bail paperwork either.  He told her he was sorry BM ever though it was ok to call her (her CHILD) to be a part of this.  BM is always worried about public image, so she rather never call her friends/family to tell them she screwed up again, but call her barely 18yr old kid to help her out.  SD said 'thanks Dad, that's what everyone else is telling me too, I love you, thanks for the advice'.  

Not sure whether she later did/didn't bail her out or what...but I TRULY hope she didn't.   I mean what kind of parent calls her teen to take care of her jail bond?  Just when I think she has her shi* together she pulls this crap again.