grrrrrr just when things where going really well! The skids have been fantastic ths week, we went out to dinner and we where chatting and laughing. We are getting comfortable now and working eachother out and i was starting to have hope that our bond was starting. DH sat down and had a big open chat and they want to like me and get to know me better (YAY

This morning just as i was hopeful! grrrr..... SD7 chucks the biggest screaming and crying tantrum about going to gymnastics comp this morning. Because of course the coaches pick on her and she doesn’t like any of the girls in her class etc (none which is true).. we where trying to teach her the importance of making a commitment to somethng. So after a hour of screaming DH sad fine there is a comp in 2 weeks and you have to go.

He called BM because she was going to pick SD up from the comp. They had a big open talk about her behaviour and she needs to learn that these tantrums aren't going to solve problems and they need to stop giving into her. It seemed like a good chat on parenting and trying to get on the same page.

2MINS AFTER the phone call, he was taking the kids out clothes shopping and SD started crying again because she didnt want to go. so DH said ohhh its ok you can stay home with me and make cup cakes!

WTF!!! you just get off the phone talking about not rewarding her bad behaviour, so now she thinks ohhh if i scream and cry i get to do fun things! i pulled DH aside and told him he was dreaming and that she was going shopping with him!

so now i am at home with the house a total disaster zone! grrrrrrrrrrr what goes thro his mind sometimes i bloody wonder