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Feeling like I need to divorce the one whom I Love the most but cannot stand how her kids treat me

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Submitted by Bill63 on Sun, 05/14/2017 - 9:10am

I am married to a wonderful woman, however her daughters are controlling and have never accepted me. Do not get me wrong these girls both are very well educaited, and are good girls however they are not accepting me due to the fact that I am not their real dad, I am not well educaited and because I do not allow them to boss me around like their mom does. They are constantly on me trying to tell me do not do this or that or how to act or not act. For the most part I leave it alone but sometimes it gets to be too much. Their mom does not defend me due to the fact that she is affraid of hurting their feelings and even sometimes joins in with them. I feel like I need to move on and find a woman whom shows me more respect! But I Love this woman with all my heart and soul and have been with her for a long time so I have allot invested in this marriage and do not want to throw in the towel but I am so un-happy right now.

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Submitted by oneoffour on Sun, 05/14/2017 - 3:46pm

Bill, some women do this. When they get together they will pick on the nearest man to prove their point. And frankly a good education does not automatically mean you are A) right or b)a good person.
I would suggest you remove yourself from the firing range. If they start ganging up on you, smile and say to your wife "Well the lawn won't mow itself/ Steve needs my help with trimming trees." Ten when the coven leave and you are alone with your wife tell her you are no longer the whipping boy for her daughters distaste for men and you will not be around in future when they pick on you and your sex. Ask her how would she like it if you sat around with some friends being rude about her.
They are not right. They just have an opinion. Everyone has an opinion. If you are unable to get away from them and they ambush you just look at them and tell them that you have nothing to add so you have other things to do.
An education does not demand more respect. Remember this .....

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Submitted by CLove on Mon, 05/15/2017 - 11:50am

Sorry Bill, however, your statement that your wife is wonderful is not something I agree with after reading your post. A wonderful person, a wonderful wife, backs up her partner, that wonderful person doesn't gang up on him!!!!

The children are a product of their parents parenting, that is what is the problem in almost all bad situations. Parenting is difficult and downright HARD, no matter how angelic the children are. If your DW is afraid to hurt pookie's feelings by standing up to them and backing you up, and requiring that they respect you, I just simply do not see the situation getting any better.

Typically the first line of defense is marriage counseling so that both spouses have a chance to communicate on neutral grounds, away from any outside influences. This will help you to find the words to communicate what you are feeling. You are doing the first "step", which is acknowledging your feelings about being disrespected. That is great! But the road is just beginning.