Well I don't feel like a step mom as I did not raise either of the 2 sds, I married my husband and they were grown already. One sd has 4 kids and these are my first grandkids. However the oldest is 7 and I have sent gifts, bought diapers and anything needed along with babysitting since day one and I would do for all 4. The oldest is kept by the bm of the sd,, so we never get to see him. I get to babysit a 3 year old, 20 month old and 5 month old (they are all boys, think sd was trying for a girl for bm...).