DH and I are disengaged due to PAS. SD16 treats us like shit. She also treats BM like shit. BM treats us and SD like shit. The dysfunction is quite extensive. BM is an alcoholic pot head with undiagnosed BPD. We are happily estranged from it all. But DH pays CS and will until SD is 18 or out of school, whichever occurs later.

I updated my Bio on 3/27/12 because I thought I was rid of her once and for all. DH was in agreement with me. No more forcing SD15 to visit because at this point she’s only using us to get to her (adult) siblings and cousins’ (DH brother’s kids). She’s a brat, disrespectful, a liar and offensive. If we had more of a role raising her it would be a different case. The PAS has done too much damage. And four to five visits a year is not enough to have an impact. Each visit becomes another opportunity for her to abuse us.

I wouldn't want to be SD14. Not that I want to change the arrangements because I can’t stand the little creature and wouldn’t want to raise her. But her mother is so damn insecure she makes up all kinds of scenarios to guilt SD14 out and tries to undermine her enjoyment of spending time with her Dad. These are just two examples that I know about that happened during her one week visit this holiday (and DH only has her four times a year)

Has anyone, (of the Non-Custodial Parent variety) had any success filing a contempt case from State #1, against the (Custodial Parent) in State #2 (where the custody order is filed), who will be in blatant contempt because they plan to relocate to State #3 without consent, court order or agreement. State #3 is 1500 miles further away from the NCP. The dispute is regarding sharing travel expenses to exercise fathers (NC) parenting time and registering the relocation in the new state.