Just to provide some background before I type out the conversation I just had with SO ... I started a new weight loss/healthier eating/"diet"/exercise program. Basically, I know I could be make a lot better choices about what I put into my body and how much I exercise and it's been about 3 weeks and I'm already seeing some results (YAY!). Needless to say, it's not like I'm on NutriSystem or buying specific "diet" food like that. I've switched to using Almond or SoyMilks, Greek yogurt to supplement in recipes, buying a lot more fresh produce, more fish, "healthier" snacks like Kashi brand, etc.

Anyway, SO just called me and said he was going to take back some bottles to the store and before he left, he said the SDs told him there's no food in the house. (Funny, because he JUST went grocery shopping Monday before they came back for the week ...) He told them they are mistaken because he just went shopping. Here's the thing ... if it's not in plain sight to them, they will NOT look through the cupboards to find something or the fridge. They won't move things around ... you know, some boxes of crackers, etc fit better behind other boxes. Our conversation went like this:

SO: "Then SD13 told me they are almost out of Lucky Charms so I should buy some more."

Me: "Um they are only with us until Friday morning. They both will not eat an entire box in 2 mornings. You won't touch it, I won't touch and they aren't back for just over a week. That will be a waste of money. They can have pb & toast, or eggs or bagels or I'll make pancakes Friday morning since I odn't have to work."

SO: "Oh I went ahead and bought it." (This man has food assistance and even though it's not an "issue" most of the time, he doesn't realize he's losing that assistance after he graduates in December. I'm trying to get him to understand we will be on a budget for food then ... and we HAVE to stick to it.)

Me: "Well that just seems like a waste to me. I bet if I was home you wouldn't have."

SO: "And then they said again there was nothing to eat and they were starving. And again I told them I jsut went shopping. And they said "All that's here is 'CAN I'S' diet food. And we are not allowed to eat that. So they asked me to buy them bagel bites." (Again, it's not diet food ... and I just asked them to be courteous about what they are eating, not to waste it and if it's the last bit of yogurt or fruit or whatever to let someone know so that I don't go in there expecting to make a smoothie or whatever new recipe I've found and then not have what I think I did.)

Me: "Ok. Well they weren't told they CAN'T eat the more healthier food. They should be eating it. It's good for them!"

SO: "Oh and get this. They BOTH ate an entire box of bagel bites."

Me: "Like they shared a box? Ok ...."

SO: "No, they each ate their own box. There are 9 bagel bites in each box! I can't believe that. But I guess they are growing kids, a pre-teen and recently turned teenager. They probably need it."

Me (after getting online to see how many calories are in bagel bites): "Um. Wow. They each just ate about 500 calories, depending upon which kind you got them. That's a lot. And those aren't "good" calories, SO."

SO: "Well they are growing kids. Remember being a teen and just eating and eating?"

Me: "Sometimes it's a little different for girls. We respond to puberty different, etc. I'm not saying your girls are fat. By all means, they are in fine shape and are not overweight and are lucky in that aspect. BUT they should be eating probably 1600-2000 calories a day ... they just ate either 1/3 or 1/4 of their calories just from those bagel bites. Now, those are loaded with fat and sodium and bad carbs. And, sure maybe depending upon what else they eat today, 500 calories might not be an issue. But they are also VERY inactive. They sit in their room on their laptop and smartphones or in front of the tv. They rarely go outside. If they were involved in a sport or something I probably wouldn't blink an eye. But still, where the calories come from is something you have to consider. There's fruit, crackers, cheese, lunch meat, veggies ... all kinds of things that would be better for them."

And then he changed the subject ... I guess I went off on a rant about healthy eating because I've been so good for almost a month and I really feel like it's becoming more of a lifestyle change (like they say it should) rather than a "diet." And I was always a very active teenager but I was still overweight because I didn't eat well growing up. And besides them, SO has put on about 30 pounds in the 4 years we've been dating. I worry about him, too. I'm just trying to make sure everyone in my household is ok ...