BM decided to sign up BOTH SDs for dance classes at the end of the summer. She did this without consulting SO. Initially she told him to "help out when he can" and whatever he could contribute would be appreciated. She is well aware he has NO INCOME. I told him the only help he should give (when he can) would be purchasing dance gear for OUR HOME and even then I wasn't totally cool with that because she made the decision and she can deal with the consequence of the cost! After the first month of dance she started demanding money for dance.

I swear I have to remind SDs & SO every 5 minutes that if something is spilled, wipe it up .... if you get something out, put it back .... And what's really getting on my nerves and wearing me thin is that every single day I come home, SD13 has gotten makeup all over the bathroom hand towels. I have said something about this every time to SO. I guess she isn't washing her hands well and then drying them on the towels. Well, I'm not washing towels every day and we don't even own enough hand towels to put out new ones every other day! It's getting ridiculous.

Sometimes that's how I feel when SO tells me all the BS that BM says .... after not hearing from her all day yesterday (since he was doing HER a favor and taking SDs a day early) about when to meet her (even though I felt she should be bringing them to our house if she wants him to take them early), he contacted her early evening and she said they had to eat dinner and it would be around 8pm. Well, we live 30+ minutes away, meaning after BM gives SO more crap about money for something SHE decided to sign SDs up for, it would probably be close to 9 by the time they got home.

I really think I will never get it through his head that BM doesn't give a shit we moved 30+ miles away and we can't just do whatever she wants/needs on her week just because she calls and tells SO she has no other option! Two days ago, she asked him to pick up both SDs and his exSS after school b/c her family that lives close by was out of town, she wouldn't be out of work and her bf had something going on and couldn't do it (and she kept telling him "You're my ONLY option"). SO called me to ask if I cared if he just went and got them and kept them overnight.