I swear I am the only person in my household who cares if anything is ever picked up or clean. After saying numerous times to SO that SDs don't put their clothes in their hamper, or they are old enough to wipe up their messes after eating, or old enough to grab a clorox wipe and wipe their toothpaste messiness up, or that he is capable of not leaving his pop cans & beer bottles around or leaving bags of chips on the counter ... I'm still the one who has to say, "Hey, who made this mess?" or "Someone CAN wipe this up." I had an extremely long day yesterday and came home beyond exhausted and after their shower/bath there was water all over the place in the bathroom. They are 12 & 13!!!! You can put your shampoo and conditioner on the other side of the tub after you use it so it's not in everyone's way... you can take your towel and wipe up water so others don't have to step in it. I explained to him when I finally was able to put out some nice Halloween decorations (things I had in storage for almost 4 years that were kept nice prior to our relationship since I didn't have kids) that we all need to be cautious when eating, etc. and yet after dinner (I wasn't home for) there were crumbs all over the place. We live in an older home and mice are known to be in it (fortunately none so far that we've seen) and so crumbs are going to attract them and it's also just simple common courtesy to wipe it up! I go in the laundry room and there's SD12's clothes on the floor rather than IN the hamper right there in the room! And the dishwasher has been clean for 2 days, dishes piling up again in the sink ... I'm the only one who sees this?!

And on a different note, I have to do some outdoor stuff for work on Saturday, SO has a Saturday class. Last night he said, "I just realized we are both going to be gone Saturday. The girls are going to be here." Um, yeah, so? This is not MY problem. I told him I'd be gone by 7, he'd be gone by 9 ... he'd be home by 1 ... most likely, they won't even be up til around 10. They are 12 & 13 and I think they can stay home for a few hours alone. If they can stay at his mom's house alone or at their own mother's house alone, they can stay at our house alone. Unfortunately, if it rains (which weather reports are calling for), I don't have to do this extra work and I will be here ... even though I'd like to sleep in, I am kind of hoping it doesn't rain so I don't have to be with them for several hours Saturday morning.

Is it bad I'm hoping when he is done with school in a few months and (hopefully) gets a job, it will more than likely cause him to have to give up 50/50 custody ... at this point, I'm feeling I don't even care if he has to pay CS when that happens ... because maybe my peace of mind will return and my negative attitude every other week will disappear!!!!!!!