SDs come back for SO's week Sun or Mon ... SO knows they are going to visit BM's family in another city Saturday so he tried to get in touch with them to see if they were staying the night there and if he could just then ask BM to meet on her way home so he could get them Sunday ... SDs didn't answer their phones or return text. SO finally sent a text to BM to ask her what was going on (even though this goes against my asking him to limit communication via text to ER and everything else to email ... I don't see how this is an ER ... if you want them on Sunday and can't get in touch, then send an email to BM and if she doesn't respond, then just get them on Monday ... but I'm TRYING not to dwell on how he agreed to my request yet still isn't doing that ...). Anyway, BM said they are just going for the day so can't meet on way back as it will be pretty late at night. SO is fine with this. Later in the evening SDs call back. They first informed him they've been at BM's sister's all week ... (this after BM got ticked off and accused SO after not wanting to keep SDs on his weeks for an entire week and "pawning" them off on others ... just because Gma wants to see them for a few days when he has them, that's pawning them off?) ... then as he was telling them he'd get them Sunday or Monday, they said, "Oh we're going camping this week." This is week and the upcoming Labor Day holiday weekend is his. We don't have any major plans and usually don't and he has let BM have them on his holidays before if they are planning on camping. We did already tell SDs last time they were here that we'd go to a couple different beaches near us over the holiday weekend. So, we "kind of" have plans and I was looking forward to going to the beach with them.

Anyway, SO is a little ticked that here it is a week before the holiday weekend and he hasn't heard anything from BM about her wanting them on his holiday to go camping. I told him if she says anything when he picks them up, then he just needs to tell her we have plans. That's all, nothing else. And IF by chance she sends something via text about it, I want to tell him to respond with, "It's my holiday, we have plans. AND this is not an ER so you could have sent an email." (Of course, he's not sticking to that either but maybe it would get him to realize I'm serious about that!!) And I want him to just stand up to her on something! She complained and threatened going for full custody, stating he doesn't want his kids ... so wouldn't this be prime for him to point out, yes I am doing something with my kids?!

I have to go back to work for a few days and we haven't really done too much with SDs this summer since we were out of the country for 2 weeks and then we had that vacay to see SO's dad with them (other than that we've just done some dinners out and movies with them). I'd like to just go to the beach and have a picnic with them a couple of days this holiday weekend.... and I want him to tell BM "Nope. We have plans and you aren't really asking in a reasonable time frame."