Thanks so much everyone for your imput here on my situation.. Me and dh have went to a workshop for spouses here and I have learned alot from it. It has showed me that sometimes anger is displaced unto others and that sometimes that we need to work together to resolve the conflicts that is misplaced sometimes.(Ie; me and my anger towards my step-son) I admited to dh that we both went from single parents to having a family all when he came home from kuwait, and all the stress that he had there, but also the stress that I had here from dealing with his family and a new situation... I admit here that I resent my ss an the situation that I am in.. It is hard sometimes dealing with all the things that come with being a step mom or witch as most people think.. But I am learning in my new role, to hope for the best, expect the worst, and hope to God that we all do not fail in our roles... Either it be him or mine...