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Dealing with the family..

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Submitted by cantmissamy on Sat, 10/17/2009 - 2:38pm

I really wish I were the type of person that could take things and not let it bother me. But it does.. When people say something mean to me I really take it to heart.. I have allways thought that if you were nice to everyone that they would be nice back but am finding out the hard way that it is not like that at all. My fmil says terrible things to me, and I just sit there and take it... I love him but cant take this anymore.

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Submitted by kidsaplenty on Sun, 10/18/2009 - 2:14pm

IMHO--I would give an ultimatum to the fiance. Me or Mommy. If Mom is kind to me we will have a relationship with her. If she is not then we will not. If the status quo of me being treated crappy continues and the relationship with her continues I'm outta here. You need to be the priority woman in your husband's life or you will have nothing but problems.

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Submitted by here on Sun, 10/18/2009 - 6:22pm

I love this topic... I have a SMIL ( Step mother in law) is still on love with bm the sun shine out her ass.

SMIL has told me that she wishes dh and I didnt get married as dh belongs with bm.. As its hurting sd them being apart..

Then SMIL told me that any children dh and i have will not be part of the family..

So i have dealt with a dysfunctional family, dh and I no longer have any think to do with them.

Dh see's his father while SMIL aka The Drunk is a work..

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Submitted by mombydefault on Sun, 10/18/2009 - 8:33pm

I know how you feel. BM has called me every bad name in the book and DH didn't even stand up for me. Sis-in-law insulted me the 1st time she met me and continues to talk bad about me and everyone else that DH dated in the past. There's no winning...only growing bitterness, which is not who I want to be.

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Submitted by boss_baby on Tue, 10/20/2009 - 7:22pm

I am so considering having a baby with my husband for fear that same attitude will be leashed out to me. To have someone tell me our baby is not family. They are already saying if we have one the baby will be ugly.

Boss Baby