BM called last night and as DH had gone to bed she asked SS7 if she could speak to me
I told her how SS7 was doing and told her he's been commenting on how he wants more time with her. She said that she "let's him have his own space" when he's at her house ... which I agree with to a point, but when your 7-year-old is asking for more time with you don't you think you need to DO stuff with him?

then she started talking about possibly moving to another province.
I didn't say much about it, other than we'd have to figure out a schedule that allowed him as much time with her as possible, like on the months with long weekends having an extended break where he has to do work outside of school to make up for lost time.

her reply: Well I'd be fine with every 2-3 months for that. I'm happy with the way it is now. Honestly SS7 is a bit much for me to handle with two little kids at home.

she then proceeded to tell me she was on her way to a remote location to visit her hubby who's working on a rig. She'd left the two babies at her friend/babysitters as she's "on the out's" with her hubbies parents because she wants to move away. She said she can understand a bit why they'd be upset but she wants to be around her family and friends and they can afford to visit.

Afford to? Yes. Physically capable? That's debatable ....

I understand what she's saying to a point but can't understand how she can be so focused on herself and not her kids. Why have them if they're not going to be your focus, or at least a good chunk of it?