I am married to a man with children. When I first started dating him, I didn't expect it to be so hard. I didn't expect it to be easy, of course, but I honestly didn't know it could be so hard either. In the beggining it was horrible, now it seems to be getting better, but of course I'll always be afraid that they could go back to their old ways. The kids' mother died a long time ago, so I didn't have any problems with PASing or mother's lies like many of you here seem to, but the kids alone were a handful. Still are, in a way.
But I stayed. There are moments that make it easier, that make it worthwhile.
I don't know anyone who's in this situation, so I'm very happy I found this site. I wish I looked for it earlier!
I'm happy I can finally talk to people who understand what is being a stepmother like.