Happy New Years and Resistance
Happy New Years Steptalkers. Mine was very dry and filled with what ifs. Quiet with a dash of Yellowstone.
The week prior, but after Christmas, I had called SD18 Princess Powersulk. I mentioned that my Dad has been in the hospital, my mother is not doing well, and is on an oxygen tank. I mentioned that my Auntie L is flying all the way from Florida, and we are hosting her. That her old room will be Auntie Ls for a short time, and that I understand she has no where to put her Residuals. All she said in response to me saying that I will need the dresser cleared was "what about using the closet"? Im like REALLY? What about that you dont ever come over for visits since August and that room is just a storage locker for your sh!t. I didnt say that, I was thinking it.
SO, I did say, "do you want me to do it or your father", to which she said gotta go, hung up and when I reitterated via text I got no answer. New Years Eve, I brought it up to Husband, who had much resistance. What about my Auntie? Who is flying hundreds of miles and in her 80? He kept resisting, so I dropped it then he dropped it.
Im just going to do it myself, and not mention a single thing. I Did The Ethical Thing, and mentioned it to Skid. Gave a deadline (last Saturday) and havent heard anything back. At this point I dont need to be "the goodguy SM", Im listening to the various comments throughout my time here "let her go, let it go...".
Thoughts? Im still storing, just in a bag or box. I guess I need a little validation...
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Nothing wrong with boxing it
Nothing wrong with boxing it up and putting it aside somewhere, next time I wouldn’t even involve DH in the conversation. You had it with SD18 and she didn’t do anything so now you can do whatever, if DH wants to be butt hurt that’s on him, the only way he would even notice is if you said anything.
Put the boxes put in his
Put the boxes put in his garage or wherever else he hosts his barnacle buddy.
Next time...
Lesson learned (again). Absolutely do NOT involve DH. And he would absolutely NOT have noticed at all. I did it as a test. Test failed, next.
Put her junk on his boat.
Put her junk on his boat.
Hopefully Selling
Hopefully selling our big boat so I can recoup my ca$h.
You've given them both
You've given them both reasonable options for a reasonable request. Too bad for them, box it all up (do NOT sort it! ALL of it goes in a box no matter what, don't waste your time) and shove it into the garage or out of your way. If it's still not gone by June 1, it goes away permanently, because she really doesn't care about it.
Whew!
Thanks for the validation. Im willilng to store indefinitely or until/if/when DH passes. Then both SD18 PPS and SD25 FF will get their stuff in boxes and left on Toxic Trolls step. Or maybe not. I really dont think anyone cares about the plastic trophies for being ok. But there are some jewelry pieces and framed photos, a few hs diplomas. 2 guitars and a mandolin plus GIANT stuffed bear.
I second the pitting it in
I second the pitting it in the garage or on the boat ideas. These guys will happily let you bear the brunt of their kids (cleaning, planning, etc.) unless they have to feel the pain. MAKE HIM FEEL IT!
Sorry, it's been a crazy few weeks. I'm sick and too tired to post about it but i feel you.
Hope you feel better soon
Thinking of a nice cleansing and clearing ceremony including their ch!t they both left. But feeling nervous also.
And lemmeguess, your DH doesn
And lemmeguess, your DH doesn't have a thought in his head or a care in the world about any of it....
Box up everything, and I mean everything, from the room -
Box up everything, and I mean everything, from the the room - including trash - and put it either in his man cave or on his boat. Don't say a word, just do it. Then cleanse the room and welcome your aunt.
Do what I did... secretly get
Do what I did... secretly get rid of it little by little. If it's brought up, say "oh I never saw that" or "thought you took it with you"
Box it, tape it, address it
Box it, tape it, address it to BM's and send it snail mail. Grab used produce boxes from Sam's or Costco with the slight hint of Eue de Rotten Veg scent.
End of discussion and end of her room in your house.
Enjoy your guest room and your Aunt's visit.
Healing prayers for your mom and dad.
Take care of you CLove. I am relishing in the increasing calm in your life now that DH's baggage is fading into history.
Send it to BM
That will get rid of the crap. Most likely cheaper then 1. 800 junk. BM will dump it. Or used it herself. Anyway your problem is solved