A weekend feels like I lived a lifetime.

Here is where we are at today:

Friday I told husband that I dont like being the task mistress, it just never works out well for me, because years of not being supported and years of being ignored. Passive agressive ignore the texts stuff. Then I get irritated, react, she plays hurt feelings victim, husband swoops in to comfort her against the meanie, same ole play out.

So, he responded with "but I want it to come from YOU, and that way she will learn she has to listen to you..." um ok, sure. I said "so you are telling me that you want me to be EMPOWERED to ask for things"...ive been using big words like that a lot, TEAM, EMPOWERMENT, working TOGETHER through things. 

I knew it would not go well, and it played out like I thought it would.

Well, I cleaned and cleared the house and backyard, and worked with pupster on pooping peeing and fetch, while SD18 Princess powersulk do nada slept in and did 1 task - clean the stove top. I think she walked the dog once and supervised play for 10 minutes. That was Saturday, and husband and I were able to go out for a fun evening of live music that night while puppy was in his crate.

The next morning, Sunday, PPSDN took puppy out for the entire day, a fun day off with her friends. I had asked for times of back at home (ignored), and for stuff to get done - you know - chores (ignored and not done). Asked if she would be going to her mothers for this week (ignored), and was myself having a fun albeit long day with MY friends, not at all concerned about having to do anything for puppy or with puppy.

Hes gotten really good at poo and pee and fetch as well as recall. Ive been working really hard and extensively. Feeling super drained. Because I dont trust either of THEM, and getting it all in early is the way to go.

After a long long long day, I get home, PPSDN in bed and puppy in crate. No text about when home no nothing.

I was super cranky and let loose on Hubsand. I was super cranky this morning and just knocked really hard on the door to wake Princess while she is in her blissful sleep as Im slogging off to work this morning. Asked if shes going to her mothers "thank you for letting me know" sarcastically of course (because my new second job is to irritate the eff out of both of them! I even made up a song called "sleeping in cause Im a free-gan" and sang it to husband.)

I wanted to provide more irritation so I texted a task request. Heres how it went:

Hey PPSDN if you could please put the dishes away, that would be great.

PPSDN: alright

Husband: Thank you PPSDN

PPSDN: Your welcome Dad.

ME: (steam coming out my ears, taking a few breaths, writing a few texts then deleting them, then thinking back to all the advice "dont do it! and "play the victim!")

O thank you PPSDN I really appreciate this so much, Ive really been feeling overwhelmed with sending our beloved pooch to the next plane, having then losing another pooch, and now this sweet energetic lovely new puppy, Im having a tough time handling everything!!!"

So, my big plan as I detailed to my friend: I dont need her to do tasks, I dont need help with puppy. I am going to hold back 150 for my share of her $300 monthly rent, giving her 2 free months as my gift. No more passport. No more pushing to get a job, to be enabled, no more pushing for photo id...I did all the spoonfeeding Im going to do. I have other plans like vacation and me-time and Im determined to control the narrative. And irritate the heck out of them.