Wow after reading a about how to disengage i am excited to go home!!! its been a long time since ive said that. im sure my DW will have an issue cause im not gonna help her with the kids like i was but maybe eventually she will get the picture that i am done. after reading the story on disengaging it got me thinking, we just took the kids on vacation to see my DWs dad and we took the kids. well while on the trip my sd10 said she wasnt glad i came on the trip and my ss11 was a little ahole. and i eventually went off and told them without my car and paycheck we wouldnt have even gone on vacation. and they looked at thier mom and she had to tell them it was the truth. im tired of doing things only for the the kids to turn around be disrespectful. my sd10 is a great kid but she is still a kid so she does have her disrespectful moments. my ss11 is an awful kid and he will act a fool all day until he wants something then he's sweet and he'll stay that for a few minutes then he's back to being a jerk. and i am done. i just dont understand how people can let thier kids act the way my ss does. my mother would have torn my butt up if i did half the stuff he gets away with. but i am going to wash my hands of it and let him be. and when he grows up and gets thrown in jail dont think im gonna miss the opportunity to say I TOLD YOU SO!! if his parents wanna let him be rough with girls and talk ugly to people fine. but when comes home cause his girlfirends dad has done kicked his butt for being rough with his daughter once again im gonna tell my DW i told you so. i really do want my skids to have good lives and i want them to be happy but i do think that everybody, child or adult should get whats coming to them.