BM, depositions and so on....
BM just reported that her Mortgage went up (claims she had a fixed rate) as a reason for more child support. Is that a reason for more CS?
She is refusing access to BF to see DS, first she claimed because I am a nurse and will give everyone covid. Judge slammed he, told her that is no reason to stop BF from seeing DS and told her to work with BF to see his son.
NOW she claims she has proof that I am addicted to drugs that I am stealing from patients. She was court ordered to bring this evidence at the next deposition.
Recently, I got notified from LinkedIn (I had a page from years ago and never added anything to it and had forgot about it) that someone searched me on March 16 (the day of her deposition) and also searched “Suzie Snirkerdod.” Whose “Suzie Snirkerdod” you ask?
BM’s BOYFREIND’S CURRENT WIFE!!!
The person who searched me was listed as a “private linkenin user.”
I talked to a cop who said I couldn’t prove it was BM, there is no harassment going on, there’s nothing I can do and it’s not illegal to google someone. He asked if I offered to take a drug test. WHY SHOULD I????? He also said that if she brings fake proof that I am stealing drugs from patients nobody cares and I can’t do anything about it. So, she can just lie???????
I also just got a FB friend request from a male doctor in California, when I googled him he did not exist. HOW CONVENIENT…. I never accept requests from people I don’t know.
I contacted a paralegal I know who stated to wait until she brings evidence, her lawyer will lay out the cards (So to speak) then BF’s lawyer will dispel the evidence piece by piece before a trial. She suggested getting my own lawyer once I officially get named or get deposed, then sue her for my lawyer fees since I have had nothing to do with her and never met her. Don’t worry, names have been changed to protect innocent wives….
Thoughts?
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Your BF better be worth all
Your BF better be worth all of this. I'd be headed for the hills if BM targeted me this way.
Thanks for the responses. He
Thanks for the responses. He’s a great guy, we have a great relationship but it does get tiring. When the Linkedin thing happened, I flipped out and told BF that I didn’t sign up for this and I am not sure this is all worth it. I also deleted my Linkedin account. This all stems from him standing up to her (She broke up his relationship with a woman before me) and he told her he was not taking her BS anymore and she was done trying to run his life. Right after that is when she had him arrested and here we are….
He does support me though and tries the best he can to manage her (Through his attorney).
Did you screencap that page
Did you screencap that page about the LinkedIn search? Nothing you can do really but may as well start documenting all this.
Yes
Yes I did. I printed up everything and also printed up the email from Linkedin that someone searched me and the email that I deleted the account..
Yeah, mortgage going up doesn
Yeah, mortgage going up doesn't mean anything. It happens- insurance rates, tax assesments- they can make your mortgage go up. Hell, we got a notice last month that ours went up almost $150 becuase of the new tax assesment.
As for her making accusations against you- I would offer to take a drug test personally. It squashes it right there in court. Save yourself the lawyer fees.
We tried to get BM tested, she sells pot at a dispensery in the next state over. It is still illegal where she lives and where court is. We were prepared to be tested as well. I was 2 weeks out from my hysterectomy so I waddled my butt in the court room with a bag 'o drugs for pain. As long as your have an rx for whatever you pop positive for, its fine. (Of course the judge said that selling it didn't mean she was using it and didn't make her test).
Personally if it was me I
Personally if it was me I would be filing charges of harassment and defamation of character against BM and getting a restraining order. Has she contacted your work with these accusations? I mean if she does I would expect them to launch an investigation and would be worried of being laid off until such time as they concluded their investigation. People like this have no fear of the law and feel they are above repercussions from the law, even if they are proven guilty in court.
I agree. This could cost OP
I agree. This could cost OP her job. And while BM will for sure ramp up for a bit, it could help for her to find out the consequences for her harassment and lies.
Yes, it could cost OP her job
Yes, it could cost OP her job.
Also, it is very possible the origin of the fake CA doctor account can be tracked down.
I talked to a cop at my job
I talked to a cop at my job who said I couldn’t prove it was BM, there is no harassment going on, there’s nothing I can do and it’s not illegal to google someone. He also said that if she brings fake proof that I am stealing drugs from patients nobody cares and I can’t do anything about it. So, she can just lie??????? I will be talking to my own city police about this, as what he said to me makes no sense.
I did talk to the unit manager who stated that it sounds like BS, everyone knows that is not true, I get A+ evaluations, ect. She stated that once I get called by the police on the charges to let her know but if I have heard nothing from the police (In her town where BM had him arrested) that she isn’t going to worry about it. There would be an investigation once the police are involved.
All of her emails are
All of her emails are harassment. He's right you can't prove that she googled you, but you can prove she emails you relentlessly.
A cop isn't an attorney. Cops
A cop isn't an attorney. Cops have *maybe* an Associate's Degree at best in CRIMINAL LAW ENFORCEMENT. An attorney - not paralegal, either - has a doctorate, specifically in Law with a big L. That means understanding the practice of laws related to crime, civil, family, estate, etc.
As an analogy, talking to a cop about what is likely a civil law issues is like talking to a Medical Assistant about heart surgery. They may know some really basic stuff, but heart surgery is really complex and you'll want to talk to the surgeon over the MA if you have specific questions.
So, talk to an attorney. Not a cop. Not a paralegal. An attorney. Also, if BM is stupid enough to produce fraudulent paperwork on your employer's letterhead, or makes any false claims about your employer, you may want to consider having their legal team step in, too. BM making a claim that you steal from patients without proof is one thing, but if she claims to have CCTV footage, or a "signed letter" on your work's letterhead, or a "disciplinary record" with your employer's name on it, you'll likely want to inform them. But, I'm not an attorney, so talk to one before you make ANY next moves.
Thank you
Thanks for responding. We have had random drug testing in the past, but it has taken a back burner to Covid testing. I have no problem taking a drug test but ONLY if I get asked to. I am looking into a defamation suit, but have been told that I have no recourse at this time, however; I haven’t spoken to an attorney as I feel I need my own instead of using BF’s.
BM has no proof of anything, she has brought up other things and told the attorney things like “Someone told me this and that but I forget who,” and “I don’t remember where I heard that,” stating, “They” and “Them” have told her this or that but won’t elaborate who “They” and “Them” are…
I spoke to my unit manager again and was told that everyone here knows me and knows it would be a lie if she contacts the hospital (Which she has not). She has court coming up where she was ordered to bring this “evidence” so we will see what she comes up with.
She may be smart enough to
She may be smart enough to know that if makes a false allegation to your employer she could get in very hot water.