....lots always going on!

So DH continued his 2x per week therapy appointments. This week was his last of 2x per week intensives with his specialist. He transistions next week to 1x per week, with a group therapy every other week. He will meet with his long-standing therapist (not the specialist) 1-2x per month. We also meet with a couples counselor 1x per week. It's a lot, and he does admit to it being tiring, BUT he's also doing really well. He's working through alot, and can now talk with me about things he's hidden away for a long time. I still have questions for him, and concerns, and we are able to discuss those. In addition, we are working with the couples counselor on communication, working through the damage he's done over the past several years (and he 100% admits this) and how to move forward. Slowly, very slowly. I am feeling more confident in him but he knows that he's got to prove it over the long term and one backside will end it all.

We have gone on a couple "dates" recently and are going out for our anniversary dinner this weekend. He's been very good at keeping things at my pace, and admits he's in no rush because he doesn't want to ruin things. We are still living "separated" but are coming together more often for dinner and fun things. I actually may need to unpack one of my kitchen boxes because I need some of my kitchen things to cook/bake. But just one box.

My old 18.5 yo kitty is still with us, but he's starting to decline faster. He's having side effect reactions to a drug he's on and we decided to pull him off that. The vet is amazed he's still here, as we all are. He looks his age now, is a bit more toddery, but seems happy (and hopefully more so without the drug) still. He's not eating much so I suspect one day he's just going to get too thin and weak - which could be days/only a week or so at this point. 

YSD18 has been communicating with DH regularly since she started college. Frankly we are both suprised. It doesn's sound like she's "answer-shopping" between he and BM. She was texting him over the past weekend and asked him "What are college students supposed to do on the weekend?" LOL. I told DH it sounds like she's isolating again, not meeting people. We knew this would be a problem. He's going to call her this weekend and specifically ask about making friends, putting herself out there. She also stated that it was 10:15 on Monday and her room-mate wasn't back yet, on a weeknight!  She was surprised. Again, we were like, well, sounds like the roomie is socializing and ditched YSD. She's now having some very basic computer problems, all related to her avoiding learning how to deal with it when she was in high school (she avoided computers like the plague) - like how to keep the battery charged, how to synch devices and bluetooth, etc. We'll see how she's doing this weekend.