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just venting

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I havent posted on here in quite some time, but I have been on here reading other posts. I see so many posts and responses that relate to my situation that I havent felt the need to post. Today I decided to vent...lol.

defensive

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So DH can sleep in the evenings while im at work and be dead to the world when i come home but let it be my day off and low and behold he cant sleep...gets up on computer and sleeps in recliner in other room...this morning i said something about it and he blows up...yelling, cussing and slamming doors...i hear how unbelievable it was for me to ask why he cant seem to sleep with me...he acts all down in the dumps when he is with me...i asked him if he would be happier somewhere else or with someone else...he said no he was happy here with me...funny...he doesn't act that way..and i have to w

double standards

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Ok here goes..dh recently spent a week in the same city as sd28. It was actually a work related trip for him. I knew he would spend time with sd and ages and other family members. I had no problem with that. I actually thought it might do him good. Anyway even though he is within five minutes of sd they are texting each other dozens of times a day. I get a couple of grudging texts. He spends every evening of the week with not only sd and ages but sd ' s sil and her two kids and dh pays for everything because sd says she and her sil are broke.

your opinions please

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Ok here goes....bear with me if I ramble please....dh is all mad at me because we have no money he says....both of us work and I pay the bills out of pay checks...there is a savings account with both our names on it that has several hundred dollars a month deposited into it from dh time in service...dh uses this for his own...no bills are paid out of this and he wants me to show him everybill and explain every cent I spend...however he wont tell me where he spends the other money....he is even threatening divorce...

just venting

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So after all sd27 drama of getting a divorce, get this, they are getting back together and here is the real Kickers....moving to our hometown....grrrrrrr....she still does not have custody of the two kids and says that their paternal grandparents will have custody until sd27 and on again off again on again husband get settled.

daaaaaad

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Oh dad the evil sm is saying things about me. Please don't get mad at me daaaaaaad. I thought you should know... but oh I'm not going to let you know about all the crap I have said about sm or to her over the years because I'm perfect..... puhleeeeze. And the sad part is dh probably thinks sd is.

just cant win

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So we made a trip back to dh birth state to get our things from storage..and so hecould spend time with his family....when we got here I asked him if he wanted me to drop him off to visit with sd27 while I got things settled at hotel...next thing I know he is yelling at me and saying rotten things about my be and saying he wants divorce because he wont stand for me not wanting tobe around his only child.....he has 2 other children but he only claims sd...

is this reasonable

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Ok I will explain my feelings...dh and I have been married for 8 years...both of our spouses had passed away before we met each other. Dh had 3 adult children...2 of which lived in his state of birth..sd lived in same state as dh.....I had 3 children as well..2 under 18 and one adult....a couple of years ago dh,myself, my daughter and sd and her family were transferred to dh former state where all dh family is....things went bad fast....my be came of age and moved back...sd and s il did the break up back together break up dance...sd blamed me and my daughter for everything .

custody

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Court date is coming up concerning who gets custody of sgkids. I know its going to be a difficult situation dealing with dh if sd27 does not regain custody and loses to her soon to be ex. I hope though that if this happens and from the way things are going it will happen, that dh will open his eyes to sd27 and keeping my fingers crossed that he doesn't decide to take it out on me. Hopefully he can pull his blinders off and consider what is best for the kids. My nerves are a wreck. Don't know how I will last another week.

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