I have SD7 and DD4 with me during this summer visitation. DH and BM live about 10 hrs away (thank God), and because DH is in the military, there is no EOW arrangement. They alternate holidays(even though BM denied each one till DH filed for contempt), but DH gets summers with SD7. Well...court battles after court battles, and a file for contempt (BM wasn't going to allow SD7 to come live with us for a month), we FINALLY got to have SD7 see her other home and spend time with her other family. DH is getting SD7 for 4 weeks out of this entire year; that's it. BM has only allowed him to call/skype twice a week, and even then she schedules activities during his COed parenting time, entices her to get off the phone, or flat out hangs up on DH for him asking SD7 to call and let him know how her school activity went. Ridiculously selfish BM (DH and BM were never married).

Anyway, so DH works a VERY long work week, amounting to about 80 hrs a week. During the time he is working, I have the girls. BM was never supposed to call unless it was her ordered time, or an emergency, when the girls are with me. She has called every single day since SD7 got here, and I have allowed the conversations because I'm a mom too, and I can understand (even though I hate the woman). SD7 was given an iPhone to bring with her so she could text over wifi...how nice that DH was never given access to that communication, but I digress. So SD7 is texting all the time, yet BM pitches a fit when I don't remind SD7 to call BM back (she had spoken to her in the car on the way back from the pool earlier). DH got home early for once, and I left the house for some "me" time and so that he could have alone time with the girls. She texts me, calls me....on my personal cell phone even though she has the house phone number. I politely apologized, but told her that DH came home early and that I wasn't even home. The girls are spending quality time with their dad, and I asked her to please respect that. DH and I have NOT ONCE denied SD to call BM whenever she has asked, which to be honest has only been twice.

BM is becoming very interruptive, and has outright insulted my family and I's beliefs by filling SD7's head with lies about our branch of Christianity. I've just had it, I don't want her calling my phone and texting all the time. DH agrees that SD7 needs to focus on her time here, since it is so limited, and not have bonding time interrupted (BM previously made SD believe that we weren't considered her family, DH included in that). I have ignored a few calls and had SD7 call back when it was more appropriate, but then when BM gets on the phone she completely disregards the fact that it's bed time and SD7 was calling to say goodnight, or that we have places to go, etc. I hate being the bad guy and saying that SD7 needs to get off the phone after an HOUR, but oi vey. DH is NEVER afforded the same courtesy when SD is with BM, not ever.

I don't know what to do about the excessive calling and texting of my personal cell....PLEASE some sage wisdom!!