I am new to this site and am relieved to know I am not alone. but makes me think.....are we too hard on the situation? I am thinking no, because I spend more time feeling angry and depressed and I never used to be. I read about all the 4 year olds and 7 year olds. My SD is now 11, I met her when she just turned 8. Even neighbors tried to warn me that what this little girl wants, she gets. I never even said anything remotely negative either. I guess they just saw how she ran to daddy to fix everything. He'd run down the street to protect her from name calling when she is the bully. Other parents would catch her at stuff but by the time she reached home, the story changed and she was the victim. I have watched this go on for over 3 years now. I too dread vacations because everything has to be about her. My husband will walk out of the room when he becomes exhausted so that others are left to entertain her. she refuses to be home by herself for an hour before school and other family members have to come sit with her until she leaves. Did I mention she is in the 6th grade? Any time I have tried to point out things to my husband that could be worked on with her or point out all the lies, he tells me i just don't like her and that she is just a little kid. He says I need to give her a break. She hit someone a little kid on a quad with daddy's railcar this weekend and daddy just gave them $100 and she lied her way out of it with daddy and said she never hit the kid. He never talked to her about the accountability of what she did. in fact, he never had a conversation with her. My friend did because I am too scared to confront her and upset my husband. She is the cause of 90% of our arguments and I am exhausted. The last time he said I just don't like her, he said it so she could hear. of course, this just makes things even better.
Seriously....getting gray hairs.