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Another Holiday...same reindeer games

halo1998's picture

10 months y'all ..I have 10 more months of these reindeer errr...beaver games.

Father's Day....Shared parenting agreement....pick up SD at 8 a.m. from the Beaver damn..and then Beaver picks up SD from our house the very next day at 8 a.m.  Easy right.....sure if your not Beaver.  

DH send SD text..I will pick you up on Sunday at 8 a.m. Be ready..and NO jammie pants we are going out to breakfast and I don't want to take you out in jammie pants and crocs.  Also, please ask your mom what time she will be picking up on Monday.

SD...ok I will be ready.  Mom won't say what the plan is for Monday.

 

In my head.......

*of course she won't.  What will happen Beaver will say nothing and SD will be at our house all day on Monday and DH will have to take SD to work.  That way Beaver won't be inconvienced by taking SD to work and/or having to get up early to pick up SD.*

I told DH the above....he was like ..."What NO...Beaver needs to pick up SD and I can't take her to work and no you aren't either."  (side note:  I had Monday off).

DH..send Beaver a message...."Are you picking SD up tomorrow morning at 8 a.m. or do you need to pick her up earlier?"  (as in YOUR PICKING UP SD YOU LAZY POS)

Beaver finally responds back..."I can't pick up SD in the morning. So she can just stay there and you can take her to work.

DH ....was like WTF...get up early and pick up SD you fat lazy @sswipe.  (I busted out laughing with that comment)

Beaver then sends..."If you can't take SD to work I will pick her up from your house at 5 p.m."  

DH ...even more mad now..'F8CK THAT ...SHE IS NOT GETTING AS ON FATHER'S DAY.  I HAVEN'T SEEN SD SINCE SHE HAD DRIVING SCHOOL.)

DH  responds "Ok since you can't get her in the morning I will drop her off sometime tomorrow at your house before she has to work."

Beaver..."well ok I guess"

So...we slept in and then dropped off SD when we wanted.  Beaver was pissed we didn't get up and drop off SD at 8 a.m.  DH was like eff that..is she wants SD back at 8 a.m. or before..THEN SHE CAN GET UP AND PICK HER up.

Apparently, Beaver was going off on SD about not being home at 8 a.m.  SD was like..eh whatever...she could have came and got me.

So basically Beaver's end game was to 1.  not take SD to work..and/or 2.  ruin DH's father's day by picking up SD early...

Like I told DH...what is Beaver going to because you dropped of SD when you wanted..take you to court.  Good luck..she is 17 and we have 10 months left. Plus, she decided not to pick her up..that's on her.  Plus, I'm pretty Beaver has gotten a good raise and the minutes she files over this bs...we will counter sue for a child support review.  Chances are she will be get less or none at all...

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advice.only2's picture

Your DH is learning to work smarter not harder, hopefully he can remember this for the next 10 months.

CLove's picture

10 months!!!! Same-ish at 11.

PetSpoiler's picture

Maybe Beaver needs to, I don't know, encourage SD to get her license?  What is with some kids lately?  I couldn't wait to get my license.  I got it on my 16th birthday.  My daughter got hers on her 16th.  My son keeps saying he can't wait to get his in 3 years.  Beaver would benefit from SD being able to drive herself.  She wouldn't have to take her to work, no more drop offs or pick ups, she wouldn't have to interact much, if any, with your husband.  It's a win-win.  You'd think Beaver would jump at the chance to get her daughter some independence so SHE wouldn't be inconvenienced. 

 

halo1998's picture

she got her permit and is in driver ed right now.  So we are working on that but she won't be driving alone at the earliest till November.  So we are still stuck with this situation for the time being.

strugglingSM's picture

We have 11 months left. BM is trying to maintain a low profile because she's been running through a series of boyfriends and also is trying to hide the fact that she  makes over twice what she said she did at the last mediation. She assumes (wrongly) that SSs didn't just blab all about it to DH, because they were so proud and entitled about what BM makes. I had told DH she made at least that much because she is a partner in a small accounting firm that was just acquired by a larger national firm. She makes more than DH and I combined, even though 1/4 of DH's income still goes to her. She has again popped her head up to demand to know what DH will pay for SSs to go to college. It doesn't matter that neither can do college level work and only have Bs because a) BM has demanded they switch teachers when they are given a D, so they switch and then miraculously get Bs, b) their grades are "adjusted" at the end of the term, when C and D averages miraculously translate to Bs. One Skid now thinks he might like a skilled trade (a good option for him, but the math requirement will be challenging). The other Skid still thinks he's going to get a golf scholarship (despite the fact that he is a mediocre golfer at best) and that he will be able to attend any college he wants, even though he reads at a 7th or 8th grade level, has had 31 disciplinary actions, including a suspension, this year, ended the year with over 20 assignments that were never turned in and owes $300 in fines for various textbooks and tech items since 8ths grade and owes over $200 in lunch fees. By his telling, he's also practically running the grocery store where he works as a bag boy. I would love to have even 1/4 of the misplaced confidence this kid has.