My sister got her tongue pierced in hs. It swelled so big she couldn't close her mouth and couldn't speak properly for weeks. 

Yepper! Halo; you are another of the unlucky StepTalk members who bought the losing ticket at the bio-mom raffle. Between the shiftless GWR, the unmotivated stepdaughter and the cursed Beaver, you may well regret 'some of my life choices'. Sipping an exotic drink must seem like heaven when your husband's past marital faux pas continue to rear their ugly heads

And yes, tongue piercings invariably damage the teeth. A quick check on the internet would have revealed to Beaver et al of that sobering fact. But hey, ‘ol Beave didn’t pay for the braces so she doesn’t give a rat’s ass about compromising thousands of dollars’ worth of dental work.

Don’t have much advice to give, Hon. Merely a lot of understanding and a big, internet ((((((HUG))))).

You just got back from the beach !!   Have you told DH is simple terms that the week with No SD is a week for you to have a breather from the drama, to focus on the marriage and when he brings them up, it makes it nearly impossible to see him in an attractive sexual way?    Does he know this?   If not I think you owe it to you both to state that need.  

When I was in my late 20's I got mine pierced.  It took weeks for the swelling to go down and had to change to another bar since the one they put in is extra long to allow for swelling.

I went to my dentist for regular cleaning and he took it right out.  I had cracked 2 of my teeth just having it in there. 

Crazy!

I worked with a woman who had her tongue pierced and she used to suck on it and play with it all day.  She got a bad case of thrush and was told to remove the piercing to aide in the healing from the thrush.   She refused and kept it and the thrush got so bad it was in her throat and everything.  She finally removed it and the thrush cleared up.  I’ve had many body piercings as well and always steered clear of that one.  The thought of my tongue swelling terrified me.

Tongue piercings do have a way of weeding out dumb ones, from the sound of it.  lol 

I would be tempted to get a small handheld sign that says "No Drama" and just hold it up as soon as he begins to talk. The other side could say, "lost my lady boner." LOL

It just sounds to me like your DH has so little interesting going on in his life that the drama and gossip about his ex and kids is all he's got going.

I had mine done twice. Never had a problem, never damaged my teeth.. didn't "play" with it either. I had it through late teens - I think 27ish.

I honestly didn't think it was a thing still. It was hit with my age group. I'm 37 now. 

Annoying he had to tell you... maybe to lessen the surprise for next time you see her? 

O/T I admit.  Help out a gal, though, and explain to me the attraction of tongue piercings.  

no one wants to hear about your failed offspring and your f*cking stupid crazy ex.

I am sorry you have to have the failed family spawn and shit choice of breeding partner review with DH .... all of the time.

I can't even  immagine how nauseating this is to have to live with.

For us, DW almost never brought up the Spermidiot though we did battle the collective SpermClan led by the SpermGrandHag for gte 16+ years we were under a Custody/Visitation/Support CO.

I did make it a point to ask SS about his visitation trip and activities when he got back.  He would talk to me.  Far more than he would his mom.  He did not want to upset her, and he needed to work through the toxic crap, lies, manipulatins, and guilting him on just about anything positive in his life. "Whaaaaa, your sister and brothers don't have that....... and you only have it because of CS."

Meanwhile 12yrs after he aged out from under the CO and back at the ranch. he has just about zero to do with them.  I still ask upon occassion and guide him to at least stay in touch with his sister. But....  his self preservation instincts keep him insolated from that entire shit show of a shallow and polluted gene pool.

Make your move, you and the dog hit the beach and enjoy your drama free new life adventure. DH will likely never stop the play by play review of his POS spawn and his idiot choice of womb donor to polute his gene pool with.

Take care of you halo.

Who gets their tongue pierced these days? Wasn't it popular in the 90s and early 00s? I got my bottom lip done in my late teens and regretted it as the back of the metal stud rubbed on my gum causing my gum line to recede and get damaged. If SD gets any health issues from it that's just another life lesson for her to learn I guess. I know SD will be getting her nose pierced like BM has. Yay for holes in the face.. 

Really didnt know that piercings were still popular with kids nowadays except the goth/emo crowd....

Most ppl in my age group got the belly/nose/extra ear piercing. The more adventurous ones would get the eyebrow or lips....The more adventurous piercings would be for the alternative crowd (tongue, cheeks, between eyebrows and other parts lol)....

I think that she wont last as those tongue piercings are hard to maintain and keep clean if you arent big on oral/dental hygiene, not to mention damage to the enamel

Just got through another day of my husband ranting about his SS21 after they had another argument. He isnt here but the argument was over the phone and lasted a good hour + texting the whole evening....It ruined my husbands mood and he tried to argue with me and bring up things he was upset about out of nowhere after we just had a good time at dinner at the restaurant. He is now watching television and im going to bed....He will attempt to get lucky but with the awful attitude of this evening, he lost his ticket to the party

There really isnt anything you can do. My husband complains about lack of intimacy sometimes but who wants to do anything when you have children around constantly or the person you are with has bipolar episodes during which they hate the world and have a dark cloud over the house because they argued with BM/steps

A sad unfulfilling life.....extremely dreadful but we learn to live with it.

Sometimes i think of regular couples who dont have dark clouds over them and wonder what its like to only have to worry about each other/their marriage.....Guess I will never know!