I'm dealing with this also. About 2 years ago, SO and i were arguing about his activities on social media. He grabbed my phone and deleted my Facebook account. All my photos, contacts...gone. He then said he was deleting his, too, "for us." But a little later he said his "would not delete." Apparently there is some glitch where his Facebook account is special, and cannot be deleted. He waved his phone in front of me and said "See?!? There's no delete button on mine!" He then said he would not use it, though. For 2 years i thought that chapter was closed. I didn't miss it. But then last week, SO texts me a pic. It's from his favorite pool hall's Facebook page. It has a photo of SO playing pool as one of its advertisements. I said, "Wow, great pic!" But later that day i went to the bar's page. It's public so anyone can view it, even without an account. I clicked the photo and under the "likes" was SO's name. I clicked on his name and saw that he had made that photo his cover photo on his Facebook. The one he said he never used. When i confronted him he said i was mentally unstable and didn't want him to have any fun. If mentally unstable equals caught your SO in another bald-faced lie, guilty as charged. Sneaky, lying, lazy bastard. These assholes don't change. You can't turn a "ho" into a housewife. 

A leopard doesn't change its spots.   I have the opposite problem in that Chef is extremely nasty when he doesn't like something I cook yet he will openly brag about his cooking whether or not I like it.  

If it wasn't for me he would still have the palate of a three year old.   He will reject something that I mentioned or cook but if he eats it in a restaurant and likes it then he is all in.

He will also get nasty if I hesitate to tell him what is for dinner because I feel he's going to reject it in a very nasty way.

I was taught not to brag about your own cooking and let others do it, which they do for me.  I was also taught to say "No thank you I don't care for that"  instead of "That shit sucks don't give it to me again!"

You just can't win with these men.

I actually get to an extent.. not making a big deal about being served something that isn't totally my favorite.. but I have hurt my SO's feelings a few times because we DO have different tastes about some stuff and there are things I love.. he hates.. things he loves I hate and the way we cook chicken is different too.. he cooks it "to death".. which makes any white meat on the bird like sawdust.. but I try not to pick his meals apart too much..lol.

But.. letting someone know there are foods you can't really eat. or really dislike? that seems obvious.. I would want to know because when I cook..  my goal is to prepare something he likes (except when I make my crispy tofu.. he hates tofu.. but I tell him to make a sandwich.. I  make my own lunches.. he can prepare his own too..haha).

Dang it, Halo. Our journeys have been similar in some ways but you have me beat on this one. And it's so stupid!

Does he not understand the impact this has on recovering trust? Maybe HE thinks it's a harmless white lie but he's got to get his head out of his a&& and gain some empathy here. Geezo. 

I had to change my account but I am the SM with the SS that has a sports thing everyday.  But my SO tries to white lie but it always comes back around. But I am made to always feel it is somehow my fault. I was told that SS has BASEBALL practice early before school because he does BASKETBALL after school. My sister in law accidentally called me yesterday and I answered and she said she was picking up her son at baseball practice . I said this seems late in the evening for that ,SS here is going to baseball practice before school because of basketball. She said wow how early. I asked SO how early SS goes for baseball? He said it is FOOTBALL not baseball is that what you need to know all defensive. I said to my sister in law oh it is football I had no idea that football was still a thing right now. I get off the phone and he said what were you saying about SS? I said this has zero to do with SS it was about how early a practice was. I let it go it is not worth it there is so much more going on with us right now . But the point was is why lie about to being baseball when it was football. SO knows I think the sports are out of hand but that morning practice is not part in my problem so I didn't care if he was going early for synchronized swimming. These men are unbelievable. 

DW Only  made one thing that I said. Never make that again.  Some stuff I wasn't  happy about , but she was cooking .  Did the food budget. That wasn't unlimited in the early years .actually wasn't much.  Pasta , eggs, rice,  were staples.  I understood she didn't have time  for aa great dinner every night. 

But lieing. About. dinner.  He has a problem 

Saddly many boys have the "don't want to disappoint or tell someone anything they don't want to hear" gene.  Fortunately, most get over it before full blown manhood.

I had the gene, my brother had it, our son had it.  

No matter how much we build a difficult topic up to be in our head, it is never as bad as we build it up to be.

How disappointing that a supposed man who has been through how many dozens of therapy sessions on this.... pulls this out of his idiot ass.

A lot of them do this to avoid dealing with "too much talking". If he had been upfront about not liking the meal the 1st time you made it, you probably would have talked about it and asked questions which he doesnt want to be bothered with

Men dont like to be bothered with anything. The upfront ones will say things in a mean way to hurt you like I hate your food/your cooking sucks even if its just one meal that they dont like whereas the meek ones will keep their comments to themselves thinking that they are preserving you. Its because they only use truth to hurt you or when it benefits them