Every week things get worse.

First, FH gets a call from BM on Thursday saying SS12 was suspended from school for 3 days. Apparantly he STOLE someones bike from school and rode it home. The next day he rode the bike back and a couple of his "friends" told their teacher or principal and SS spent the entire day in the office as one of his days in suspension.

Second, on the way home from school after sitting in the office he and his friends tracked down the 2 kids that told on them and beat them up. The kids that got beat up told their parents, who then told the school, who then told the school deputy/PD Liason. A police report has been filed about both the stolen bike and the attack on the 2 boys. SS has now received another 10 days suspension.

Today BM, SS, FH had a meeting with the principal and deputy. The parents of the 2 kids that were attacked chose not to press charges but they could have and SS would have been in even worse trouble. According to the deputy DCF might get involved at BM's house. If anything else happens with SS at this school he will be expelled.

I am so dissapointed that its gotten to this point. SS absolutley knows that taking that bike was WRONG but he took it anyway. He recently had a bike stolen (this is his 5th bike in just a couple years) and he decided that he would take someone eles's bike! I can't beleive he would do such a thing! FH is so hurt and dissapointed.

Since SS has no respect for BM and she said he is grounded for a month (for the original 3 day suspension) I am curious what is actually going to happen at her house. She sets NO rules, boundaries, etc. There are no real punishments in her house. She yells, screams, pushes and hits but when it comes to doing anything productive she is incapapble. ALl she does is play the blame game with FH about this and say it's all his fault this has happened.

Since FH can't control what happens at BM's house he is definitly going to get very, VERY strict with SS on the weekends. I am trying to help come up with all the things that need to change on the weekends to try to make SS more accountable and responsible. But, FH is also going to have to stick with the grounding on the weekends and come up with punishment for all that SS has done. FH is really struggling with how to handle all this and I feel like I have a TON of opinions on the subject but I'm not sure how much I should say to FH because this is something he needs to handle and take very seriously.

What a mess. I hope DCF gets involved, FH stops procrastinating and gets a counselor for SS and gets a lawyer to try to get custody. Something needs to change QUICK because things have gotten way worse in just a few weeks.