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BM called the police, finally, when SS didn't come home after school

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Submitted by Happyhippos242 on Sat, 05/25/2013 - 8:36am

Finally, someone did something and I feel so releived that the police are involved. Ss was supposed to help bm with a yard sale and moving the weekend but was refusing to help - which started a huge fight that ended with her calling him a pothead and him punching a hole in a wall. Its no wonder he didnt come after school... if he even went to school. He has missed so many days hes nit going to pass freshman yr. Sometimes he doesnt come home for days at a time so this is no different but finally one of his parents took action.

Everything is getting worse and I feel helpless.

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Submitted by Happyhippos242 on Fri, 05/24/2013 - 9:40am

I haven't been on this site it a couple years. I eventually got fed up with the drama with FH, the ex wife and the almost SS so I just stuck my head in the sand and stopped paying any attention to it. I felt like things were better for a while. But now things are so much worse than they were when SS was 12 (hes 15 now) and I feel like I'm being completely irresponsible for ignoring whats happening.

What I'm Thankful for...

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Submitted by Happyhippos242 on Mon, 11/22/2010 - 9:39am

I am thankful that I get to ESCAPE my HOME, my SO & his son and visit MY family for Thanksgiving. I get to ENJOY a 9 hour drive after work on Tuesday (alone) to drive up to see my Mom, sister, BIL and 1 year old nephew. I am sooooo excited to have 9 hours of alone time in the car and listen to MY music and just try to forget about all the BS at home. I am so anxious to see my nephew who just turned 1! He's so big now and I miss seeing him grow up but at least I can be there for Thanksgiving.

Already started to disengage; Frustrating behavior

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Submitted by Happyhippos242 on Mon, 11/01/2010 - 8:27am

Technically the weekend was ok. I went out for a very nice dinner with FH and we went to see Saw 3D for Halloween. I made chocolate chip cookies; this seems to AMAZE FSS12 since his mom never really bakes or cooks from scratch so he loves them. FH and FSS ate them till they felt sick...did I get a thank you? NO. But at least I know it made them happy so that should be good enough.

Disapointed in FH and FSS12

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Submitted by Happyhippos242 on Mon, 10/25/2010 - 11:06am

I bit my tongue all weekend and it was very difficult for me. I'm trying to look at disengaging as a good thing and a way to save my sanity but even though I didn't say anything to FH about what I was thinking and feeling I am still feeling it. I've got to get a handle on the emotional responses to everything or else not only am I feeling stressed but now I can't talk it out with FH anymore.

How do I disengage?

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Submitted by Happyhippos242 on Tue, 10/19/2010 - 7:16pm

FH forwarded another text from BM to me. It was a picture of her arm that had red and pink blotches on it. The text read:
"c my red arm! Thats from our son hitn me after i hit him 4 sayn f*ck u 2 his sister bout askn 2 empty the dishwasher".

He sends me this to seek emotional support and guidance and he asks for my opinion but in the end he isn't going to take any suggestions - even the ones he thinks are right on. He will handle things like he always does.

Drained

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Submitted by Happyhippos242 on Tue, 10/19/2010 - 12:41pm

After what's happend over the last couple weeks I don't think I can handle all of this anymore.

FH doesn't have a game plan for how to handle anything and SS will be at our house in a few days. Fh hasn't had a talk with MIL so that they are on the same page with the changes. MIL is too busy saying "POOR SS" to think about how SS screwed up again by HIS choice and has nothing to do with BM being a raging psycho bitch. I have said all that I can say to them and made lots of suggetions - I don't think anything is going to change.

Am I wrong? Out of line? Just F*cking clueless?? I'm a step away from throwing my hands up

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Submitted by Happyhippos242 on Mon, 10/18/2010 - 6:39pm

ONE thing that BM said that I actually agree with about SS is that FH is too soft on SS. This of course is the pot calling the kettle black BUT it doesn't make it any less true. BM is useless when it comes to discipline in her home and FH has tried in the very recent past not to get involved with BM's altercations with SS. They ALWAYS fight and FH never gets the WHOLE story from either BM or SS but the story is never pretty. When it comes to school related things or behavior in our home FH has no problem verbally reprimanding him in the moment but thats about all that happens.

SS12 almost charged with 2 counts of battery and theft

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Submitted by Happyhippos242 on Mon, 10/18/2010 - 3:01pm

Every week things get worse.

First, FH gets a call from BM on Thursday saying SS12 was suspended from school for 3 days. Apparantly he STOLE someones bike from school and rode it home. The next day he rode the bike back and a couple of his "friends" told their teacher or principal and SS spent the entire day in the office as one of his days in suspension.

In Rememberance

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Submitted by Happyhippos242 on Wed, 10/13/2010 - 10:51pm

On 10/13/1993 my father suddenly and unexpectedly past away. After 17 years this date is always a bit melancholy. It seems like a lot of people have lost loved ones recently and although I know that time really does heal all wounds and the pain will eventually start to subside for those people, I also know that the feeling of loss really never goes away.

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