Well we went to those meetings today and wow am I emotionally spent. First was the family session where the first topic was about SS coming back with DH and I. So I spoke up my mind very eagerly. This is what I said

"There is no way he can move back in with us. This will never happen. I will never trust him again. Not around any children in the complex, my future children or with anyone I love. He is a liar and molester. Now he can visit as long as his dad is there and we both are awake but no sleepovers ect. I am not trying to stop him from having his dad but I am not going to be on edge grilling him every two seconds. That is not healthy for any one in the house."

At that point SS started to cry and became withdrawn from everyone just pouting and brooding. So the case worker asked DH how he feels and DH backed me all the way. He said I can't be at work worrying if he is molesting kids at the park or around the apartments ect. I was so proud of him for speaking up he usually doesn't. So the case worker asked SS if he would like to communicate NO ANSWER still brooding. She said do you want to talk to your therapist? NO ANSWER Do you want to go to your room? NO ANSWER. DH asked him the same thing NOTHING So we are just sitting there as the case worker is trying to plead for this kid to talk. DH is trying too. I got frustrated because I find it disrespectful not to answer and felt like they were treating him like a baby not like a 16 year old. So I said to SS after 3ting there wasting time. SS you have two choices you can either go talk to your therapist or go to your room. After about one min he gets up and goes to his room. Was that so hard? Why does this child only react to what I say? I don't get it.

The second meeting was just them trying to bully both DH and I into taking SS back but we stood our ground. He gets out of lock up in 4 to 6 months. Then goes to a step down program but they didn't say how long. After that I hope BM wants him she does right him every couple months and saw him a year ago. If not I hope he like foster care. We will pay child support until he is 18 and that's fine with me.