Maybe I'm way off base here, because I've never had a child but why is a 13 year old trick or treating? My SS is going to continue trick or treating as a teenager? I had no idea.

As far as your question, when SS is too sick to go to school, he has to stay in bed. No playing, and no video games. I doubt a parent would deprive their child of trick or treating, even if they were faking being sick. Isn't that some of the behaviors that come with the territory?

In "our" house - if you're too sick for school - you're too sick for everything else. No matter how old you are. It was the same way with me growing up. I missed bday parties, trick or treat, you name it. When you're sick - you lay on the couch with movies and nap. No junk - you eat soup - sick foods. No playing - maybe coloring. No running around...

It's not that he's 13 that concerns me. If I had my way - I'd still be trick or treating. We have tons of highschool, middle school, etc. kids that trick or treat here and hey, it gives them something to do, keeps them out of trouble. The problem is...if your kid is sick - he needs to be resting. Not eating candy and trick or treating? Did you go with them? My FH does not have any contact with BM unless I am around. Why would he take him over there? Has she not had 12 other years of costume memories? No reason for that visit...

What are the rules in your houses regarding sick kids?

the rule in our house for when my BS is sick is if he stays home or comes home from school he doesn't go outside to baseball practice or trick r treating or anywhere else. Also we try to keep the sick person confined to their room and spray lysol by the door ALOT. Sick kids don't lay on the counch at our house, hoggin up the TV and germing up the house.
Of course if it's the Skids it's probably different. We haven't really had to deal with them being really sick on our weekend. They've had cold and such and were sent with no meds but nothing's really slowed them down.

God will forgive me. It's his job.
~~Heinrich Heine

IDK. Last year SS14 (then) got kicked out of school for 2 days at Thanksgiving, i know he did it on purpose so BF would take him hunting earlier. Right on cue, BF stopped putting up the wood trim in our bedroom and ran to get him to take him hunting. And I put in my .02 and said he shouldn't get to go for 2 days instead of being rewarded.

So MY rules don't really matter anyway. And that is the last time I gave a single piece of advice regarding the sbrats.

OMG, helpmeinwi. I'd go on strike. If I had to work all day and then clean up after ss...I'd freak. Everyone contributes in a family. Your DH needs to set soem rules and parent. He isn't their friend, he's their dad. Seriously, duh. You have every right to be upset.

Your step children will end up useless. Good luck when they actually have to get up early and hold down a job.