My SO was dragged back to court in January by the HCBM for full custody (SD12).  The affidavit was....creative and completely delusional.  SO filed his own motion for contempt and seeking full custody as well.  My SO, thankfully, has evidence to back up his motion, where the HCBM does not.  GAL appointed.  Investigation completed.  GAL was to recommend no changes to custody or placement.  Two weeks before the hearing (April), SD requests she not see her dad.  Starts calling him by his first name.  SO offers to work out a switch weekend with HCBM, SD refuses the switch and there is no communication with HCBM.  SD then allegedly confides in her therapist that she will unalive herself if she ever has to see her dad again.  This is completely out of the blue and has all the tell-tale signs of PAS.  Therapist (chosen unilaterally by HCBM) shows absolute bias in favor of HCBM, who consistently cites that SD talks about SO shortcomings as a parent as a potential cause for her mental health problems.  When SO confronts the therapist over her recommendations and his concerns with the history of HCBM, therapist doubles downs on her recommendation for SD not to spend time with her dad and sends all of his communications with her to the HCBM. 

At the hearing in April, GAL puts it on record there are some red flags with this therapist (no shit).  GAL talked with SD, and got her to agree to spending time with her dad, but her grandfather (HCBM's father) is present to make SD more comfortable. New temp orders are drafted that SO gets to see his daughter with grandpa in "proximinal placement" of the time he sees her - no over nights.  The GAL can make adjustments to this whenever.  SO also able to purchase a phone for SD, HCBM must check and respond in OWF within 24 hours, and that family therapy be started.

Its been a nightmare with this new order.  HCBM thinks that SO's parenting time is now "supervised" (no) and is using grandpa's "availability" as an excuse to only allow a few hours for DS to be with SO - no set hours in the new order (big mistake).  HCBM wasn't responding to SOs messages and he has had to get the GAL involved to set up his parenting time.  HCBM has blamed SD (SD allegedly deleting OFW messages) and her (HCBM) off and on hospitalizations for her non-communication.  She has been able to completely dictate SO's parenting time.  Thankfully, these shenanigans have not been lost on the GAL.

HCBM has been in constant contempt since April, even putting SD on anti depressants May 1st, w/o consulting with my SO.

Two weeks ago SO gave cell phone to SD, who was visibly anxious about accepting the phone.  She tells my SO and me, "this feels like its going against my mom."  When we explained to her that her mom knows about, its been discussed - she visibly relaxed and even got excited about having her own phone.  On a hugely positive note, SD has not missed one call from SO and ALWAYS calls him back if she misses a call.  She has even texted with me.  This was not the case when all communication had to go through HCBM phone.

SO tried to get family therapy set up, but can't go forward w/o a signed order.  It has taken two months to get the order drafted and submitted to the court.  HCBM attorney is just as bad with communication apparently.  It was finally submitted yesterday.  Last week, we got a glimmer of hope that the GAL is willing to make changes to the current placement order.  She agreed with SO's attorney that things were going poorly, and that she had talked to HCBM attorney several times to get communication issues corrected.  She said she was willing to exercise her authority, but wanted to talk to the therapist and SD before making any changes.  We anxiously await word from her.

Of course HCBM has improved - this is the first week since April we have not had to get the GAL involved to force communication about SO parenting time.  I hope this newfound compliance is too little too late in the GAL's eyes.

With the order signed, SO has been able to get family therapy started....and with that a new set of eyes and ears on SD to counter the absolute BS the current therapist is spewing.  SD is communicating with SO on a regular basis.  The next thing is to see if the GAL will agree to remove SD from HCBM home for the rest of the summer (at SO's request).  

It is nice to see things progressing....even just a little....to improve things with SD and my SO....this whole thing is taking its toll...on him...on me...on us...and above all on SD who is woefully in the middle and definitely trauma bonded to her mom.

Next court date in August to address SO's motion.  Seems so far away.  I am so worried about SD's mental health in the hands of her horrible mother.

Thanks for reading.  This site has been so helpful to let me vent, and to know I am not alone.