Christmas presents
SO got a text from BM the other day,
BM: Have you gotten anything for SD10 yet? Anything from her list?
SO: We've gotten her a few things, but nothing from her list
BM: Well, I bought her EVERYTHING (my emphasis) on her list (the list was 27 items long) except the UGG boots. I found them on Amazon for $160 if you want to split it
She sent this list to grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc. What the hell is everybody else supposed to get her?
Not to mention, this kid grows out of shoes every other month, why would you spend $160 on shoes? Not to mention, she ruins clothes and shoes with her carelessness (she is only 10, but still if you want expensive stuff take better care of the stuff you have already and maybe we'll think about it). GRRRRRR!!!!! Stupid BM, spoiled SK!
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She gets $500 a month, works
She gets $500 a month, works 2 days a week, and lives in her mom's basement. Her mom is tired of being disrespected, no rent, no help with utilities and her coming home everyday with shopping bags full of new clothes, so her mom is kicking her ass to the curb! I know for a fact, as her daughter has a big mouth, that all of her credit cards are maxed out. And yet she texts SO and yells at him for spending $100 on dog food! First of all none of her business what we spend our money on, we certainly never bitch to her about her out of control spending habits and secondly, a have 3 big dogs and a litter of 5 puppies to feed!
Thankfully, SO is pretty good about only occasionally spoiling her, but never with expensive gifts. He doesn't believe she is responsible enough for expensive electronics, a smart phone, expensive clothes, etc. He is very adamant that she complete her chores every week to earn her allowance (although $20 a week for a10yo is excessive in my opinion), but she is very generous with her earnings and is constantly buying gifts for others, SO did express his disappointment in her Christmas list and made her remove any requests for gift cards we see that akin to asking for cash, and we keep Christmas pretty low key on the presents, focusing more on spending time with family, doing things like ice skating, baking cookies, making crafts, etc.
Hopefully we provide a big enough influence over her that we can counteract her mother's behavior.
Spoiled rotten. Gonna grow
Spoiled rotten. Gonna grow up thinking everything is simply handed to her on a silver platter. Good job BM! If I were your DH, I'd get her whatever *I* wanted to get her, don't go overboard, and tell BM to fffff off!
I don't know if he even
I don't know if he even responded to her after that, but yeah basically we knew what we were getting her before she even made her list, and we don't go over board on Christmas anyways. She'll get a few small gifts like PJs, a couple movies, a Crayola air brush kit for $25 and a new CD player for less than $50.
Every Christmas and birthday BM always wants to split some expensive gift, he did it 2 years ago and said never again. I think it has to do with more than just splitting the cost, it is a way for her to stay connected with him during the holidays. Look baby girl, here's your present from Mommy and Daddy. And yes, she constantly calls her "baby girl", drives SO nuts and he let's SD10 know it too, no you're not a baby. My mom still calls me baby, because I am the baby of 5 kids, but I absolutely hate it
^^^Oh the dreaded "babygirl"
^^^Oh the dreaded "babygirl" bullshit. I think my DH (cuz he calls SD14 babygirl) finally got the creepiness of calling his daughter this term of endearment a couple weeks ago. We were watching Magic Mike on DVD (his choice, he wanted to see what all the "hullabaloo" LOL was about) and Mike has a booty call girl in which he calls her and says "hey babygirl". When that scene came on, DH turned to me and all I could say was "yeah, see?"
I don't think he'll be calling her that anymore. She already acts like a mini wife (well not as much anymore since he barely sees her now that she's leeched onto BM's boyfriend) and he fed into that for far too long. The nickname has to go! Change it to "peanut", "sweetie" or like I call her "stepdevil" LOL Just NOT BABYGIRL! ICK
Yeah, he doesn't like it at
Yeah, he doesn't like it at all. one of her nicknames is Buggy (from when she was an infant and had pictures taken in a lady bug costume), so he calls her Bugs, Bugalore, Bagalore, kiddo, that kind of stuff. We had a real issue when she was 8-9, she wanted to be treated like a baby, carried like a baby, talked like a baby, etc. I think it had to do with going from being the only grandchild to having 3 new baby cousins within a 2 year span. And of course BM didn't help by caring her 9 year old around like a toddler all the time. It took awhile, but finally SO got a clue and broke her of these habits. All of a sudden this summer, it WA time to go to bed one night and she jumped up and tried to make him ry her. It hurt his neck, he got angry with her and asked her why did you do that? She said, because I want to be carried to bed like a baby. Loved his response, "well, you are nota baby and you are too old and too big to be carried."
Yeah, these kids nowadays
Yeah, these kids nowadays seem so immature compared to when I was a kid. At that age, I'd NEVER act like that! And at 12, I certainly wouldn't be acting like my dad's mini wife, as SD did.
I think it is because they
I think it is because they are treated like babies for far too long. SD10's new bff is actually very mature, independent, self reliant and I really like her! So I was very glad to see SD10 start to emulate her, but SD10 still has those moments where she acts like a baby in front of this girl and it's funny because her friend will get all weirded out by it and kind of call her out on it!
Yeah, SD14 acts, dresses and
Yeah, SD14 acts, dresses and behaves MUCH younger. When people first meet her, they're shocked that she's 14, as they'd think she's only around 11 or 12. My DD is only 6 mos older than SD but she's MUCH more mature. She carries herself well, behaves and is articulate and polite. Dresses and acts more like she's 17. People mistake her for a senior in high school and she's a freshman! SD failed a year so she's still in junior high so she's around much younger kids as well and I think that perpetuates her immaturity.
BM never asks us what we are
BM never asks us what we are getting SD so she doesn't buy the same thing. Me and SO are always the ones that have to spend to get SD the nice things she wants on her list. BM knows that we buy the nice things. This gives her an excuse to buy SD the little things SD doesn't even need or can even use for that matter. My SD for the most part is a very good kid. She gets good grades, helps around the house (sometimes) and doesn't usually get into trouble. I think since she is good during the year that she should get a couple nice things for Christmas. For example last year we got her a laptop (refurbished and the cheap kind) because she is getting to the age to where she does a lot of stuff on the computer for homework and research. We also got her a few other things. Her mother got her a pair of pjs that were 2 sizes too small. Then she gave her a thing of lotion ( SD doesn't even use lotion because she hates the way it feels on her skin, She says it makes her feel greasy lol) and a $50 gift card to Old Navy. Of course when SD went back to her mom's after not seeing her for a couple of months SD asked if they could go to the mall to spend the money on the gift card. BM's response: "Sorry but I think I may have lost the card." It doesn't piss me off that BM buys little things. I mean usually its not the quantity of gifts or the amount of money spent on gifts. It does however piss me off that because SD lives with us she doesn't get much from her mom but we were told that her mom spent about $400 on SD's brother for Christmas. SD said she opened 3 presents and she had to sit there and watch her brother open about 12 gifts right in front of her. So during the holidays, the way BM treats her, gives me a little bit more reason to get my SD nice things. However buying boots for a growing child is just stupid. When my SD was 11 she went through like 3 shoes sizes. I would tell the BM if she wants to waist the money then she can buy the shoes on her own...
*BUYING BOOTS THAT ARE THAT
*BUYING BOOTS THAT ARE THAT EXPENSIVE IS JUST STUPID*