Since the last time I posted BM has been literally "off the chain" so to speak.

She has been withholding visitation, not showing up as the court order states, and attempting to fraud husband to get more money for insurance purposes.

So - DH filed the contempt charges with the lawyer. Lawyer should be taking the signed affadavit to the court house today or tomorrow. I am hoping the case comes up very quickly as if she keeps up with her patterns..... DH is not going to see SD very much until school starts again - in August for SD.

BM withheld vistation in Oct - claimed SD was ill - kept her out of school 5 days - got a doctors note - and to our dismay found after DH did not drive to pick her up due to illness. We find pictures of SD at a Halloween festival at her school on facebook. This was the very next day.

BM has been withholding visitation each 3 weekend of the month since Feb stating various bogus reasons and just not showing up at all. So i am probably sure she will do the same this weekend - which is the 3rd weekend in April.

BM attempted to withhold spring break (this past week) until DH let her know what the court order stated and that we had already paid for our trip - which he emailed her back on in January just so there would be no problems. Guess she figured she would have to probably pay the money back if she withheld that one.

At any rate - as a short refresher.... BM filed a custody hearing against DH last year - alleging I was abusive to my SD, my husband was not exercising his visitation, and claimed DH was lying about income. The court case finally went to court in Sept 2009 - where new court order found BM's allegations to not be true and she was ordered to stop alienating DH and SD's relationship, to stop alienating SD and DH's family, for her family to stop alienating, ordered her to answer phone once per day before bedtime for DH to speak to SD, gave DH 5 weeks in the summer instead of 4, gave him christmas and thanksgiving on alternating years, and kept the 1st,3rd,5th weekends.

The teacher this year has really kept in contact with DH. We found out SD was cheating in school on three seperate occasions and BM had not done anything about it at all. Or as the teacher said SD told her, "My mom was not upset, I didn't get in trouble." Teacher also asked DH to work on reading, spelling and counting when SD is at our home.... since she feels SD needs extra help and is not getting a response from BM in this area (and BM is a Language Arts teacher for 7th grade).

So i don't know what is going on in BM's life - but she is not receptive to DH talking with her. I wish he could just sit down and tell her to pay a little more attention to SD in school as the elementary years are extremely important and build a foundation. BM has been on facebook talking about how she is partying like a rockstar and looking for a husband - but is not putting the priority on her daughter. It is just sad.

So much for this update...... Hopefully, contempt charge and court case will help BM realize DH is serious about getting his time with SD and will no longer play these foolish games. I am sure DH would hate to have to go back court again if not.