Well, the drama of the christmas pickup finally came to a head this past weekend.

Just a reminder - My DH was supposed to get sd at the pick up point from BM on 26 Dec. The BM strong armed him to driving all the way (3.5) hours to get her - because she flat out refused to follow the court order. Hell who was going to make her. It was the morning after christmas.

Little did she know - we had already talked to her lawyer - to no avail - she whould not pick the phone up when her lawyer called her. Ok - so we then faxed a letter to the judge. Yeah we have the number because has been dealing with this bitchmom for 5 years of the same old stuff and worse.

Needless to say - we had hoped the judge would straighten it out before that friday pick up - but it didn't happen. So we drove to NC. When we got there - I got out of the car with camcorder and taped the exchange and my sd on camera - who was excited to see what "santa" had brought for her. We then gave the BM a christmas gift from us - she didn't know how to take that - but who cares. The look on her face was priceless.... especially when she looked out the door and saw me there.

Fast forward - she calls and got mad because that tuesday after christmas she told DH to take sd to her parents house early - on saturday morning when his visitation did not end until sunday at 4. He then told her - he was following the court order and she would not get her until sunday at the halfway point.

Needless to say she was absolutely furious. Why i don't know cause the court order is what we always follow. Anyways she hung up stating she would be calling her lawyer.

WELL WELL WELL - I guess her lawyer set her stupid azz straight. She had a new attitude when she called. I guess the lawyer told her about the letter - Im sure the judge contacted her. She agreed to meet halfway on time. And didn't even mention the lie about being in cheerleading that was supposed to over ride his visit.

I wish i could have seen the look on her face when that lawyer let her know the deal.

Now later today we found out that she is still going forward with the alledge charges of abuse here at our home. She put the sd in counseling saying that sd has nightmares every time before coming for visits and afterwards because i was mistreating her. She called and scheduled the next appointment for this Friday at 330 (when she gets off of work). So un-beknown to her - the counselor called us and invited us to the appointment - because what the BM told the counselor does not match what sd is telling the counselor. Nothing she told the counselor has come out of the babies mouth at all. Just crazy.

The counselor stated that she doesnot see that there are any signs of mistreatment. Says that bd has nothing bad to say about us or the family here in VA. I am so glad. We got the bd on tape saying how BM told her to tell the counselor that I was mean to her and hit her. She then said she did not understand why BM was telling her to lie. Then we also got on tape her (sd) saying that she doesnot have nightmares and that i have never hit her. The best part of it is that we did not coach her at all.... just turned on the camera, set it on the counter, let her color and just asked how her week was. Thank goodness.

But at any rate counselor invited us to attend the counseling session and we are. But she told us not to tell the BM that we are coming because she doesn't want her to change the appointment. BM is trying to pressure the counselor for some negative report. Thank God this counselor is interested in being honest and truthful. So i will make sure that i update everyone with how the BM reacts when she sees us show up for that appointment.

We are going to park down the street and walk down to the appointment. We really don't want her to change that appointment. But i think it is essential to the custody case coming up that we show that we were concerned enough to come to the "counseling" appointment for so called Nightmares - caused by me - as the baby mom says.