So let's see what it will be when the next visit comes up.....
I usually cook for my kids and husband about 5 - 6 nights a week. By kids I mean my 13bd and 6sd (when she visits). SD likes to help me cook and I enjoy her helping as well.
Well, I guess she was telling her mom (BM) what we were doing and now everytime i turn around SD is telling me how she is allergic to all these different foods now. AND will not eat them at all anymore.
AND the list now is something like this: milk, wheat, eggs, soy, fish, latex, soap, grass, dust, baking soda, etc....
So this weekend it is peanuts and peanut oil. Uh ok. So i then begin to research peanut and peanut oil allergies. AND low and behold - I find a large list of things SD still eats on this list.... AND the very same place (Chick A Fila) BM had her birthday party at cooks in peanut oil, and lists that individuals with peanut, peanut oil, milk, wheat, fish and soy allergies should use extreme caution when eating their foods. AND she had latex balloons at the party.
SO we explain this to SD that maybe her mom is mistaking. When we ask her - she says we are lying. SO of course being diligent that I am - had the information printed on what i know that sd eats on a regular basis and the print out from the Chic Fil A website to hand to her. her.
McDonald's also cooks/uses milk products in the chicken nuggets. Burger King uses milk products, and Chic - A - Fila uses milk, soy, and peanut oil. Not only that. . . . Ice Cream has milk in it. AND cake/cupcakes have milk, wheat and eggs. AND not to have latex balloons around sd even if it is a birthday party because it can cause an reaction.
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I am deathly allergic
to all nuts & especially peanut s & peanut oil. The reaction is your throat closes up & you can't breathe. I am pretty sure you would have noticed this before now if she has been eating these items.
My question for BM would be how does she know that SD had these allergies & maybe an appointment should be made for testing.
I am having my son tested as soon as he turns 2 to rule out the nut allergies, as my mother has them as well. I am pretty sure he doesn't because he has accidentally gotten a hold of a peanut butter cookie at daycare & MIL fed him something at xmas time with nuts in it. But I want to make sure because anaphalactic shock is a very scary experiance that I don't want my child to have.
Well we called the doctor and
BM did have her tested for allergies. AND to our surprise - she has a slight allergy to somethings as all of us do - i guess...
Nothing worth noting or needing medication. So it explains why she still would be able to eat these things.
I think she is just playing doctor. BUT to be sure - since she is added on my insurance here (BM doesn't know that) I will be getting her an allergy test here to make sure during her summer visit.
no kidding
This could definitely cause emotional issues and complexes in SD at a later date..or one very spoiled little princess when she is older.
GOOD for you though for standing up to BM!!! I bet the look on her face was priceless.
"He grew up in my heart, not my belly"
It was priceless......
AND we are going to have her tested when she comes with us on 6 June for her summer break. (We get two of them 2 weeks in June and 2 weeks in July) The July visit is during the custody court case.
So we will have the doctor information to take with us then at that time.
Hell Kaffonseca read back in my blog and you will see the other mental games she has played with SD.
This is the main reason we filed the counter-motion for the upcoming court case she filed against us.
HA!
About 2 weeks ago, SD5 came from BM with a few bumps on her back, a very mild sort of allergy... Ok... about 2 days later... (the allergy was for like a day, and the day she got it her mother ANd boyfriend had gone to Sea World) so... BM sends an email asking DH to monitor SD5's milk consumption as she stronlgy believes that she got an allergic reaction from drinking too much milk (because she drank too much milk that day) I thought that was totally funny, and stupid... DH agreed...
Isn't it more accurate to *think* that she might have gotten something from the air or something she touched at Sea World??? She has had days in the past in which she drinks a LOT of milk here and has never gotten such thing... Is that even possible? I bet it wasn't like she had drank 2 gallons of it... anyway... I started googling information, but I decided to let that go and meanwhile we DID give SD5 milk... anyway... }:) And SD5 said "my mommy said i can't drink milk" and I said, "that's at your mommy's house, you did NOT get that allergy from drinking milk anyway"
~You can see clearly only with your heart. What is truly important is invisible to the eyes~ Antoine de Saint-Exupéry's
So feed her the most bland diet imaginable
dry turkey, water, non-wheat bread, etc.
Well,
sometimes food allergies can worsen over time. You may notice a very slight reaction the first few times you ingest something you're allergic to, or none at all. But there may come a day when you go in to complete anaphalactic shock, and you have no way to prepare for it, since you've eaten this food before. Just be careful.
Well, I would be more careful
If what she was saying had been substantiated by what her doctor said.
We are going to take her to my daughter's allergist here. He is great. Besides my daughter is allergic to grass and a couple other things i.e. wool, some soaps and lotions, ragweed, pollen, dust. AND we manage her's quite well.
I just have to know for sure. Instead of her mom, coming up with new allergies everytime she goes back - according to what she does here with her dad and us.
Like two weeks ago, we took sd to play soccer with the other kids here... AND her mom calls saying - she could not believe we put sd's life in danger because she was running and has asthma.
However - sd dances in a dance troupe in NC - practice twice a week and dance receitals. HUH? I guess the asthma is only bad here in VA.
It is all manigified here -due to the fact she doesn't like me or the fact that DH has gotten married and never married her.
None of these things were major problems the first 4 years of sd's life - Just when she finds out he has gotten re-married.
AND IF IT WERE SO BAD - WHY HAS SHE GONE OVER 6 WEEKS WITHOUT SENDING AN INHALER, OVER A YEAR WITHOUT SENDING AN EPIPEN, AND CONTINOUSLY DOES NOT SEND ALLERGY MEDS. I MEAN COME ON......
I was just responding to the
I was just responding to the post where you said that BM did take her to the doctors and she does have slight allergies. You didn't specify what, but I assumed it was certain foods and said be careful b/c you never know. Just based my reply off that.....
Oh no problem... I am just responding to the situation in
general not you negatively 2Bloved. She does have slight allergies to pollen and dust. Of course it is hard to believe BM cause every week it is something new about allergies.
So we just decided to take her to my daughter's allergist and see what the real deal is. He did a skin prick and blood test for my daugther to be sure of her allergies. So we will have the same done for stepdaughter.
I dont want sd to have any issues here. It is just amazing to me how all of this comes up when she (BM) finds out sd is helping me cook our meals.
I am frustrated with her - not any of you wonderful ladies on this site.
My SD's BM is an RN (just wrote that on another post)
And even before she was created a long list of meds she thought SD was allergic too. They are all antibiotics and they changed Drs a lot due to the military. I asked DH if SD ever had a rash or serious reaction to any antibiotics, like difficulty breathing. He said no, that she just had stomach upset. Duh. That's what happens when an antibiotic kills all the helpful bacteria in your stomach along with the bad ones and you end up with stomach issues the first few days on them.
SD also has mild asthma now, though it was worse when she was little and she had pneumonia a few times. Now we are wondering if it was just related to those incidents though, b/c over the past 5 years I've been able to wean her off of almost all meds. SD used to have "attacks" of asthma for attention or if she was in trouble. I noticed as soon as she felt she got what she wanted or out of what she wanted to get out of she was dandy and ready to play and run around some more. So I stopped making a big deal out of the attacks when it was obvious she was using them to get something, and after the treatments we would have her lay down the rest of the day and not do anything (FUN) that would stress her body out. That nipped it in the bud pretty fast.
BM used SD's asthma as an excuse for everything from not going to sleepovers/parties to not participating in sports. Then BM got an inside shedding dog even though DH and she had kept theirs outside ever since SD was diagnosed. Over the years, SD seemed to adjust just fine to the dog over there, and on her track team she just finished 8th in the federal league for her event, even though she lost her inhaler weeks ago (can't refill it yet due to insurance.)
Last night on the phone SD told BM about her run around our neighborhood (she claims she ran 5 miles, but I think she ran to a friend's house to hang out instead.) DH walked through the room in time to hear SD tell BM, "No THEY haven't REFILLED my INHALER yet!"
I told DH maybe since she's done ok through track and a bad cold without it, that once we can refill it we should hold onto it for when she really needs it. She was taking it daily when she had possession of it.
Anyway...this stuff is ridiculous. Now SD's med charts are filled with a ton of stuff she doesn't really need, as well as a bunch of stuff she may need but will fear taking.
UGH.
"To be, or not to be: that is the question:
Whether 'tis nobler in the mind to suffer
The slings and arrows of outrageous fortune,
Or to take arms against a sea of troubles,
And by opposing end them?" ~Hamlet Act III scene I