For two years my husband and I have been planning a family reunion cruise. We went on the cruise hoping to enjoy the beautiful weather and our family. My 12yo SD also came along and shared a cabin with us. She was so clingy the entire time and so manipulative that I couldn't even sit next to my husband BF at dinner. I don't get along with his family very well. I can handle them and be polite, but one sibling and his wife are so stuck up that it is beneath them to converse with you. BF's other sibling is a complete idiot. Unfortunately that is the sibling that has a monstrous 2 year old. So when my vacation wasn't being ruined by a manipulative, back talking SD, I had to listen to a screaming 2yo who was going through a hitting and kicking phase. I thought during the cruise that I was being overly sensitive because I am pregnant with my first child. So I waited for a few weeks to see if my feelings of resentment of his family and my feelings of anger towards him for being so easily manipulated would subside. They didn't. Matter of fact they festered. Today I finally lost it when I asked if we could get a way for a weekend sometime before the baby is born. He said that we got to spend time together on the cruise. I never got to see him, alone. Evil SD wouldn't allow it. When I tried to go swimming with them to join in a “family activity” she would start wrestling around in the water. She even "accidentally" kicked me in my side, thankfully not my stomach. She did say "sorry", but it was dripping with sarcasm and her little smirk made me want to rip her head off. If I tried to go hang out with his family in the evening in the bars on the boat (where kids aren't allowed after ten) she would pout and start crying because we were ignoring her. So he would allow her in the bar. I tried to put my foot down and I got corrected by my husband, he said "She is on vacation." Well NEWSFLASH, so is every other passenger on the boat, they have already spent the entire day dealing with everyone else’s kids; they don't need to deal with them there. After I mentioned that to him, he said "Well we're just sitting here in the corner, its okay." I gave up that argument and she looked at me at smirked. I left, and his family thought I was just being a bitch because of that. The last night of the cruise everyone was going to the casino after ten. She wasn't allowed in there. I wanted her to go to bed early because we had to get up at 5:00 the next morning to get off the boat and get through customs. We had early flights. I was told it would be alright for her to go to the casino, because she "promised" to get up without any problem. As they left the room, she actually flipped me off. The next morning, she didn't get up early, she was a half an hour late getting off the boat, they rushed her and BF through customs, and I left at the right time. I was waiting for them in the shuttle to the airport. Had she got up on time she could have had breakfast, but she didn’t so she was "starving." My SD has NEVER missed a meal, she is well over 230. Serves her right.

I was so thankful to get her on the plane to go back to her mom. We got home and there was a voice mail from evil SD, her mom (BM) (aka: $2.00 hooker) is pregnant with her boyfriend, Mr. Two felonies for beating my ex wife and kids, child. She now wants to come live with us. My husband thinks this would be great b/c it would save us $1k a month, yes let me repeat that, $1k a month for only ONE child. That is what we pay in child support. He said yes she can live with us, w/o consulting me. She will be here around my due date. I'm livid. I was really looking forward to being thousands of miles away and not having to deal with her. I wanted to focus on our new family, not deal with bitchy manipulative pre teen. So now only will I get to feel like the odd man out again, this time I will get to take care of a newborn infant all on my own since SD monopolizes BF's time.

I travel home to my parent’s house in a few weeks by myself for my baby shower. I am really debating about not returning. I don't even care if he is there for the birth of our daughter or not. I don't care if he is in her life or not. I just want to walk away. My SD can have her BF back. I can't compete, I can't win. I don't even want child support. I just want to belong to a normal functioning family where I am accepted and not the odd man out all the time. I've felt like that for weeks now, and I don't think I will get on the plane to come back. What do you think? Any advice?

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SD12 has just called and told us she wants to go to private school when she moves here. It is $29k a year to attend that school. BF said OK! I am livid!