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Curious about DHs and friends

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Submitted by ITB2012 on Tue, 08/27/2019 - 9:23am

For those with DHs that cater to and coddle their children, do your DHs have friends they go out with regularly? If yes, how often? If no, why do you think that is? (Not sure if is a Disney dad trait to focus on your kids to the exclusion of your own friends, but I'm guessing it is.)

I'm curious because DH basically has only work friends, and really only has one event he does a year as a true friend event and no a work related thing. Any additional "going out" is done with co-workers and usually is a couples thing, and is not initiated by him. I've encouraged him to join some things but he doesn't.

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Submitted by Kes on Tue, 08/27/2019 - 10:15am

My DH used to be a bit of a Disney Dad, but he has seen the light, lol!  Your theory more than applies to NPD BM, who has an unhappy 2nd marriage and relies on her daughters for her social life and any meaningful relationship.  She only stays with the Walking Wallet for obvious reasons.     DH is currently trying to encourage SD22 to get a life away from her. 

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Submitted by Jcksjj on Tue, 08/27/2019 - 10:46am

He does. BUT the first time he asked me out he ended up canceling because BM changed up the schedule and he didnt realize he was supposed to have her that night. I was super pissed because I was a single parent and had to arrange for a babysitter but he didnt bother doing the same. He also said "but I love  having her here" when he was defending canceling the date. Which even then I thought was ridiculous and weird because she was there nearly every night at the time. I told him it didnt sound like he was ready for a relationship and figured that was the end of it...but then he tried so hard to make up for it. Oh the red flags I ignored....

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Submitted by Chmmy on Tue, 08/27/2019 - 3:34pm

My DH has ZERO friends. He has a ton of facebook friends from when he was younger but other than work friends, zero. Twice a year he does a work event with these friends and these guys are close its a small family owned business but he never goes out with them other than the 2 events per year. He has a large family and so do I so that also keeps us busy He is also friends with my guy friends or the husbands of my girlfriends. He likable but I guess he was too busy with the skids to keep friends. I never really thought about it but he has fomo with the skids, like if someone needs their butt wiped and he's not there