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It’s just one crappy soap opera episode after another

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Submitted by ITB2012 on Wed, 08/26/2020 - 11:08pm

In today's episode DS calls his mom (me) to say that OSS is super pissed right now. OSS told DS that DH thinks he's a drug dealer. 

Hm. I wonder where he would have heard that since he hasn't talked to DH in weeks and even then it was only a few nothing sentences. 

Im pretty sure that after DH screwed up and told YSS that NMB (BM) was tracking him, she turned around and told OSS what DH had told her about overhearing OSS negotiating a possible sale of some of his stash and other bits of info about OSS being the resident expert when it comes to pot. 

I am unclear at this point in the story if NMB knew OSS was doing that and she's pitting him against DH or if OSS has decided on his own to read into things and that's not what NMB said at all. Personally I'm guessing it's a mix. 

Pretty sure DS was calling to see if it was true DH thinks that. No but DH is concerned that it's not just an occasional thing. 

Heres where it gets sticky. DS asked me not to say anything to DH. DH is slightly pissed at me currently for separately suggesting he start therapy to talk with someone about how to have a relationship with his almost adult kids. (Cause that would mean he's "bad" in some way.) 

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Submitted by JRI on Wed, 08/26/2020 - 11:43pm

I think triangulation is one of the worst aspects of steplife.  Somehow we stepparent are always on the wrong side.

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Submitted by tog redux on Thu, 08/27/2020 - 5:32am

Why did he even communicate with BM in this manner, that started it all.  He should have just said, "No, BM - if you want to track him, ask him yourself why he's stopping there. Bye." Like JRI said - then there is no triangle.

Crazy BMs are the central drama-stirrers in these stories. Everyone else just gets caught up in it.  Then they sit back and act like innocent victims.

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Submitted by ITB2012 on Thu, 08/27/2020 - 7:04am

Be the nice guy, to co-parent, to be part of his kids lives so he jumps at the chance without thinking it through. Yet he just sits and wrings his hands about his relationship with his kids rather than takes steps himself to work on it. 
He still has a relationship with YSS because YSS puts in the effort. 

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Submitted by tog redux on Thu, 08/27/2020 - 8:04am

Strange that he didn't think it was odd that BM was asking HIM to do it, instead of doing it herself, lol.

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Submitted by ITB2012 on Thu, 08/27/2020 - 9:15am

And we do sometimes ask the other what is known and if any investigation can be done. But it's different. DS was very talkative the other night when he called and he even made the comparison of how XH and I parented as a team and cohesive unit while DH and NMB just seem to have conflict and bounce around on how they handle things.

I still am on the fence as to whether NMB is trying to align the kids with her or if DH has made himself a non-entity. 

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Submitted by ITB2012 on Thu, 08/27/2020 - 9:16am

And remember this is the same guy who wanted NMB to tell the kids to be nicer to him. Maybe neither of them do conflict well.