It kills me that DH refuses to acknowledge his kids' bad/disrespectful behavior towards me. I know it must be hard to hear someone tell you that your kid is sh*tty. Not that I've told DH that but I have eluded to that in a more politically correct manner. But seriously c'mon! His kids are sh*tty to him as well and he hates it so why am I so out of pocket to make the same observation and speak on it?

DH doesn't even want to deal with his own kids, so wtf would make him think I would want to deal with them and their bs?

I guess guilt is really powerful. Strong enough to make you blind to the truth about your kids. It's really a shame.

I'm mortified anytime my son is disrespectful. I correct him every time!!!!! Especially if he's directing it at someone else. Its downright embarrassing, wrong and I wont have it, not on my watch. He knows better than to be disrespectful to me, I taught him early on to not cross me. My kid knows how to take "NO" for an answer and he also knows that I don't budge when I make my mind up. He doesn't bother wasting any energy or any of my time or his with whining or begging me. Anytime I've witnessed my son be disrespectful to my spouse, I always check him. I can't say the same for DH. He has laughed at and dismissed so many behaviors that I considered disrespectful by his son. Which to me, only encourages his kids to be disrespectful. Is it wrong for me to expect him to step up? He failed to meet my expectations on that front and I have disengaged ever since. I'm learning to disengage more and more on different levels. Its a process.

I know DH hates it but you gottta take the good with the bad and we married each other for better or for worse..... so touché my dear cuz what DH comes with is not desirable, warm and fuzzy or even cool.