DH and I after our fight last week that went on for four days of not communicating, are fine. But, his damn stubborness doesn't make it easy. Well the only reason BM was confronted about taking my SS out of state the last two visits, was because the lawyers are panicking about the holidays. The agreement is still not signed, because no one can agree on the holidays and the two weeks of vacation that she wants before SS turns 14.

Well the dates she gave, SS doesn't want. She wanted him for the two weeks around 4th of July and he said no, because he turns 14 during that time and no longer wants to see her. He also, didn't want to spend his birthday with her. Since all this was decided months ago now that we got custody, they still can not agree. Between her lawyer stalling on it and not dealing with it and our lawyer being so busy, they are just now starting to panic because nothing is decided about Thanksgiving. Well DH refused to give her Thanksgiving, since we have never had him in 6 years. She alwasy has. Well now she doesn't get Christmas since she agreed last January that we had him to take him on a cruise with my family. Paid for and not changing it now...

So really all there is is the two weeks and possibly Easter for her and her regular EOWE 6:00 on Friday to 6:00 on Sunday. No more, no less.

We are not in any rush, since we are not bending on Thanksgiving. She gets him on Friday at 6:00 PM no earlier. DH is adamant on this. I am cooking at home again this year and I have even invited his Best Friend's family for dinner. He is excited about Thanksgiving...She will not ruin this for me.

So you gotta love these lawyers who sit on finalizing these agreements for several months, but now we all have to rush around to get it finalized immediately, because they say so. And you know they are charging more to work quickly. Can't prove it, but I know it. How else does this bill get in the thousands every other month and we are not in court?

So our lawyer tells her lawyer about not taking him out of state without letting DH know. Again, she gets a slap on the wrist. I have to be happy with that and know in my heart that her behavior with SS is ultimately going to be her undoing.

Also, last night, BS16 was taking care of a friends dog and hears SD15 crash a golf cart with 3 friends at 9:00 at night into a tree. He heard the squeal of the tires and the speeding leading up to it. He hears one of the girls call a Dad and start crying about it. He believes her and then when she is off the phone they all start laughing about how she got away with it...Nice. BS did tell DH who then as they are talking about watches them come down the street on the golf cart, flying and laughing. Front Bumper hanging on..He just watched....Nothing he can do about her reckless behavior. We know about it and thanks to living so close and so many mutual friends we get to hear about it. Gotta love Facebook, because without that we would only see the things we are told about. Facebook truly clues us in to BM and her inability to control this child....

Thankfully she doesn't live with me...after this weekend we have 16 more visits for SS with him mom....DH says we just have to focus on that...So trying...