What would you do?
Okay my sd's counsler said a month ago give me 2 months. This was after SD14 laid her hands on me and left some bruises. I told counsler whatever. I told dh and counsler i wanted her out of my house. Sd has not laid her hands on me again since. but i have also stayed the hell away from her. I don't want to be near her. I find myslef looking for things to be pissed off about. I don't ever have to look hard. not at all. So she is failing all of her classes and won't get this damn agenda thing signed. her iep at school told us she didn't need help with anything she is more capable than that she scored high with flying colors. she just won't do anything. She is always got detention. she won't be on time to class. we are close to having a ticket. I'm tired of all this. really tired. do i just tell the dh and counsler im done? that im sick of this i want away from it completley find a new home for SD? That it is I feel like i am not capable of disengaging.
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well its his uncles house but
well its his uncles house but i pay all the bills. hes not working.
If the deal was that after
If the deal was that after two months, SD would show some kind of improvement and it hasn't happened, then you have every right to revisit the subject with DH.
It sounds like you are fed up and giving her two months may not have been the right decision. If you don't think you can ever get past what she did then you need to discuss ending this situation.
You need to take your money
You need to take your money and scram. Why in the world would you stay? You're paying all the bills AND he has a daughter that laid her hands on you? And when you say lay her hands, did she actually HIT you? And she's not dead or laying up in a hospital somewhere? I must be missing something.
I mean seriously. I'm
I mean seriously. I'm confused. If a Skid or ANYONE for that matter, put their hands on me, there would be hell to pay. My initial reaction to confrontation is to swing and the fact that I have learned NOT to swing FIRST, doesn't mean that I'm not just itching for someone to try me.
it sucks loving someone and
it sucks loving someone and not their offspring. its not even that i don't love her. i do. but i do not like her. i guess i just have to pick. this is the most awful feeling of all.
No, it's really not. The
No, it's really not. The most awful feeling of all is when you hear/see her "putting hands on" your own kids. Maybe when they're hurt badly enough, you'll do something different?
I don't know the whole story, no one does. But if you've got a teen who has assaulted you, you've allowed it, then why would that teen stop assaulting?
In fact, do you have any reason to think she hasn't hurt your own kids yet?
Get real. People find another love all the time. When my kid doesn't need my protection and my responsible role model of mature adulthood, then I can be with a guy with a kid who may or may not be physically abusing me, him, the dog and cat next door.
If a child over the age of
If a child over the age of two hits me, I'd have serious concerns. I'm fortunate that my skids (although weird as hell) are basically good and would never dare to show such disrespect. (knock on wood) With that said this is a 14 year old? I would have pressed charges. That's assault. AND she left bruises? Sorry. The kid would have either 1) never been allowed back into the home or 2) wouldn't have been allowed back into the home until I moved. And that's if I was feeling benevolant. I can't see me not laying her ass out flat were she to raise her hands to me. And leave bruises you say? Hell no.
Why are you paying the bills? It's one thing to deal with a DH with kids but your supporting them to? My SO is a straight up asshole, lazy parent, disney dad with the conversational skills of toast but you best believe he's paying MY mortgage on the 1st every month. Leave that situation because you can do better.