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I H8 BEIN A STEPDAD!

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Submitted by justintime on Mon, 12/17/2012 - 1:20pm

Hi every1, Im a newb so bare with me.

I was wondering if i felt alone when i say i feel great pain when thinking about spending the most part of my life living with my partners kids.

I love her to bits..BUT it dosent feel natural for me to play daddy for her kids. Ive been with her for 5years , it felt okish up to that point but now i feel like ive had enough.

We have a 15month lil girl and i cant help but focus all my love and time with her.

My partner is complaining that im causing a divide in the family but i feel she wants it all her way to much I.E me being a full time dad to kids that arnt mine.

please if some1 can shine a lil light on this topic it would be much appreciated

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Submitted by justintime on Tue, 12/18/2012 - 9:45am

hi , thanks for your interest.
What changed... Well think the longer your with some1 the more you either like or dislike them, I wouldnt say i strongly dislike them, how ever i think i disliking more being a stepdad and like the natural feeling that comes with being a bio dad to my own daughter.
I treated her kids before jus as her kids.. not trying to be there dad jus some1 who feeds them and takes them where they need to go.
as the bio dad isnt around simply bcuz he doesnt want to. i feel more pressure is on me as a full time stepdad.
The problem also is when i would like my own time with mum ,daughter and me. I.E When visiting my family i prefer us three. this is causing problems tho. as she feel her kids are being pushed out? which i feel is my fault.

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Submitted by justintime on Tue, 12/18/2012 - 9:58am

Kids are 7 and 9.. do i get on with them. Most times. They dont see there bio father, he lives local but isnt interested.
my partner is understanding about most things... however, im abit insurcure about being around my own family with her step kids. I feel ashamed u could say , altho that is to do with me as i may be too proud. i feel the kids are part of my family but not part of my ex family i.e anties, uncles. nans etc...
I do relise tho manymoments that is isnt the step kids fault for any of this.