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kellyrae1's picture

Submitted by kellyrae1 on Wed, 10/30/2013 - 10:31am

Does anyone know the rules for shared time with the kids? If DH kids live with us half the time, every other week, does he pay less child support?

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amber3902's picture

Submitted by amber3902 on Wed, 10/30/2013 - 10:37am

If the kids live with you half the time, it could mean he pays less CS.

You can google your state's child support calculator and it will give you an idea of about how much your DH would have to pay.

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Submitted by askYOURdad on Wed, 10/30/2013 - 10:39am

It depends on where you live. I have heard of it both ways. In the cases where there is CS that I know of, it's usually a small percentage of whatever the "calculated" cs would be and it's because one parent covers medical or a similar expense.

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Submitted by kathc on Wed, 10/30/2013 - 11:42am

I know people who have the kids 70% of the time and still pay CS to BM who only has them 30%. You never know what the judge is going to order and a lot depends on where you live/how proBM they are.

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Submitted by kellyrae1 on Wed, 10/30/2013 - 11:57am

I just found some information online and it's not totally clear. It reads that if you have the kids 40% of the time, there could be a reduction in support but there are a lot of variables involved. Nothing is crystal clear I'm learning.

misSTEP's picture

Submitted by misSTEP on Wed, 10/30/2013 - 11:58am

I have decided that NOTHING is crystal clear. If it were, there would be no need for judges and lawyers. ::sigh::

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Submitted by kellyrae1 on Wed, 10/30/2013 - 2:18pm

BM wants him to take the kids more but we live in different cities, an hour drive away. We've talked about moving closer to the kids so he sees them more and she's asked for help in the past. She leaves the kids at home with her 15 year old daughter from another baby daddy all the time anyway. The part she wouldn't like is receiving less money. She rely's on other to pay her bills, she's a mooch.

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Submitted by Willow2010 on Wed, 10/30/2013 - 12:02pm

Depends on the state.

And I know you did not ask, but I am going to make some assumptions and give some advice here.

It is SOOOO common for a new SM (under 3-4 years of SM hood) to come in guns a blazing trying to get the skids more. either for money or because they want to stick it to the BM. What ever the reason...let it go.

If they come live with you, you are probably going to regret it and wish that they were with BM more.

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Submitted by kellyrae1 on Wed, 10/30/2013 - 2:20pm

I don't want the kids more, not at all. I struggle with every other weekend. His kids are spoiled and high maintenance. I miss the days when he had his own place. I would maybe consider having them more when they're older...maybe.

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Submitted by kellyrae1 on Wed, 10/30/2013 - 2:23pm

We moved in together this past August. I decision I wish I would have given more thought. The situation has gone from tolerable (or so I thought) to I'm loosing my bloody mind. Arghh...now I don't know what to do.