SS16 spent the weekend with BM and yesterday SO gets a call saying that BM is missing $100. SS16 calls his dad between school and track practice and says he has a message from his mom accusing him of stealing the money and he whines to his dad that he didn't do it.

I suggested to SO that he go ahead and search SS16s room before he gets home, SO says "If he took it you know he would have taken it to school and gone and bought lunch today" (He is on a diet and we don't give him money to leave campus for lunch he has to eat at the school)

During dinner SS16 mentions that he left his backpack in his friend's car. I ask why it was in the car. Oh he left it in the car when they went to LUNCH!!! SO says nothing, doesn't ask how he could afford lunch or anything! After dinner SO explains that he did ask how he could afford lunch (on the drive home from school) SS16 claims the friend bought his lunch. I ask SO if he verified that, did he call the friend? Did he discipline SS16 for leaving and eating off campus? NO and NO

WTF??? Your child lies because YOU let him!! Lazy parenting for 16 years is why you have raised a liar!! (This isn't the only situation, we have caught him in MANY lies and lying isn't our only problem with him) I can't make him see that if he would just get off his ass and parent that he can make a difference with this one (too late for his other two, 19 and 21) I am so frustrated!

My BS17, BS14, and BS13 tell me the truth, not because it is something I told them once they had to do, but because they know I will check! They clean up after themselves not because they enjoy it, but because I get off my ass and make sure they have done what they are told. Over the years my kids have learned that it is MUCH easier to do what they are supposed to the first time than to make me go through the steps to check and find out they didn't.

Maybe I have had my thumb on my boys too much over the years, but I am very happy with the result! I am raising good boys. I just want my SO to put the same effort into parenting so he can say the same thing...not true, he has to put in MORE effort, because he was so lazy for so long!